Why do I get hit on more without makeup?

I swear, out of the ten times I've been hit on in the past 3 months, 9 out of those 10 times I've had no makeup on whatsoever, my hair was a mess, and I was wearing loungy clothing (i.e. sweatpants and a t shirt).

When I occasionally try to look pretty and wear makeup and get dressed up, it seems guys don't really care. But when I'm a mess, they all come out of hiding.

Guys- what is up with this?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Some dudes get "intimidated" by a girl when she primps herself to look her best.

    Backwards, isn't it?

    I'm the opposite; if I see a woman all doll'd up, I feel that it'd be a shame to not approach her and compliment her on details on how she looks (ex. I like your eyeshadow color).

    I've seen first hand how much time some females takes to primp themselves up for a night out; I feel it wrong to have that attention go to waste, so I will approach her and let her know her primp-work is noticed by me! :)

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What Guys Said 8

  • Well, all I can guess is, when you don't wear make up or dress up, you must seem to be, more in those guys leagues, than when you are all made and dressed up.

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    • Hmm.. I don't think I'm out of anyone's league either way.. but I guess that is an explanation. :)

  • Many guys find made up women artifical, and possibly they would be demanding, and expensive to entertain. We think a girl without makeup is not slutty, is more likely to be honest, and isn't going to play games or makeus compete for her attention. And maybe, just maybe, she's REALLy NICE and not spoiled!

    We are aware you don't have makeup and we think: 'Wow, what would she look like made up!'

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  • for one or more of multiple possible reasons.

    1. the guy thinks he has a greater chance of getting an average looking woman whereas a dolled up woman seems unattainable to some.

    2. the guy thinks that since she is less concerned with her appearance, and therefore she will be less judgmental on his

    3. the guy sees her as real and genuine, rather than the hollywood photoshop models who put on a ton of makeup. he sees that she looks beautiful without her makeup, whereas women who wear a lot of makeup, there is always the question of whether they look beautiful without it.

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  • Well, I guess makeup enables girls (not all, some girls actually look better without makeup) to enhance their appearance and that can intimidate a lot of guys. Without makeup you probably get hit on more because you are less intimidating physically and so guys feel you're not out of their league and they are more confident in approaching you and thinking they have a shot.

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  • Some women look better without makeup on. I commented on a woman's hair last night at work. She said she didn't do anything with it since it was a mess. I like the messy hair look. I love it when a woman is wearing yoga pants or something equally as comfortable.

    You do look very attractive by the way.

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  • LOL..just because you think you are a mess does not mean guys will think so...it is amazing how females will try to appear how they think other women will approve and then not understand when males do not agree...O.O

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  • From your profile pic, I'd say as long as what you're wearing shows off your body you're going to get hit on a fair bit. Anything that shows off your chest will do the job.

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  • It's because, despite what you girls believe, make up isn't something that a lot of guys like.

    Less is more, despite what the media would like you to think.

    Now it's true, most girls will never experience this little factual nugget for themselves, because they would sooner die than leave the house without their mask of warpaint slapped on.

    But you happened to go out without make up, and whammo, you realized that guys liked that.

    Do you know what I think you'll do next?

    I think you'll ignore the evidence of your own life, and go back to wearing make up all the time, because girls don't wear make up to please guys or get guys. You girls wear it because you want to. Because it makes you feel good. But you would prefer to think it's because guys make you wear that sh*t.

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    • I never said I think guys make girls wear makeup. And I rarely wear makeup unless I'm going out to a club or a dressy event. If I'm grocery shopping, going to work, running errands, I don't wear makeup- which is how all of those guys in my post had the opportunity to hit on me without it. The last paragraph of your answer is stupid: "Do you know what I think you'll do next?" as if I'm some feral creature and you're studying my habits in the wild.. Please.

    • Really, anonymous? My skin is not orange at all, but good attempt! That was in the middle of August last year and I'm Italian. I can't help but get dark

    • But ty for posting it- I forgot it was up and it's over a year old.

What Girls Said 5

  • I think there are a lot of guys who find girls more approachable when they are dressed down or dressed simply. Also, I think that girls may act differently when they are dressed up. They may feel less free and are concerned if they look pretty,etc. When you expect you look horrible, you don't put any fronts on and can also be more fun/carefree. I know this guy once hit on me when I was makeup less and braless (not pretty) with a big hoodie on and ripped sweat pants. He was much more open and kept hugging me and kissing me on the cheek. I know I felt like a dork, had my glasses on so I didn't even try to be anything but a little dork and he ate it up. He liked me but all other situations he seemed really intimidated about coming over.

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  • IMO, maybe you actually look prettier without makeup on? Don't really know but Prof Don's explanation sounds reasonable, maybe they do get intimidated.

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  • Maybe they fear the rejection of a dress up too pretty girl and the casual looking girl seems nicer... guys avoid a no...

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  • i have heard this a lot and it had happen to me too. This is just a thought but maybe we look more approachable and friendly without makeup on, while we look more stuck up with makeup.

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  • less intimidating.

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