I'm 5'6", and weigh about 135 (or a little more, if I weigh myself at night) .. I'm a white girl, and I have an ass. and boobs. but my stomachs also not flat and my thighs do touch. I've always wondered if that was really gross to the opposite gender?
if it matters I'm blonde with green eyes and pale. (i go in the sun but I don't seem to tan no matter what I do.)
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Each person has their own opinion. In the land of make believe (tv, mags, etc), yes it probably is gross. But, in the REAL world, that is beautiful. Some guys (shallow) only look at physical traits, others look at personality, others want a combo. If you feel comfortable with yourself, then be proud, if not, change until you feel comfortable.
If you feel comfortable the way you are, great! If you don't, then do something about it. But don't let other negativity bog you down.
Most of people's thoughts, such as yourself, is negative self thought/speak. I am guilty of this, too. This is because of what we hear, see, or read. We are bombarded with bad/negative things 100-to-1 compared to good/positive things.
One thing I do to help my self-perception /esteem is (gonna sound crazy) a technique called positive self-talk. This is where you say only positive, present tense things about yourself, whether or not they are true today. This is primarily done with things that you want to improve. (Ex. If you wanna see yourself as being an attractive person, say something to this effect: I am an attractive, outgoing, __(insert your own positive thought)___, person.) Do this wherever you are, but give time to yourself and do this looking at yourself in the mirror. Google either: positive self talk or positive self thinking.
This has opened up my personality 10 fold. It releases the self doubt you have in you mind. It transfers negative thought (energy) into positive.
I hope this helps!0