Hi:( I'm 16 and I hate the way I look. I'm not overweight or have any severe scaring I just don't like how I was created I can't get myself to have confidence or even love myself. It males me want to kill myself the way I look. I don't wanna be this way anymore. Please help me:'(? I'm having a nervous break down
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If I were 16 and around your area, I'd probably at least have flirted with you. You're a beautiful young woman. My old age (of 32) gives me some perspective.
There was a book (discussing advertising relating to how people perceived themselves based on media influence), and I thought one of the ads had some great writing - and it was kind of true. The ad starts out with a teen boy, standing outside a girl's house, yelling a her name, trying to get her attention. She's upstairs looking in a mirror, I think... The line goes: "She can pick out 12 things she hates about her body. He can't come up with one." And it has a bit of truth to it.
People do not always perceive you as you perceive yourself.
Most teens and young adults feel the same way you do. I'm 32, and I'm probably considered as quite homely by a lot of girls; partly because of that, and yes, the media, and yes, so called friends and family, even I haven't gotten rid of all that insecurity.
Even a lot of old guys feel bad about their looks, and yes, it's getting worse for even us guys.
Now we have to be good looking, with perfect skin; We have to compete with more choices; Some ways, this can be good, but in others, it's not so good.
Looking at TV, most "role models" are very good looking. It's often unrealistic, but we try to compete with it because we see so much of it, we all kind of assume it's something we can get. Even "nerdy" characters, who are consdiered goofy looking or antisocial or weird are shacking up with chicks left and right. It isn't real, It may not even be something you want to aspire to when push comes to shove. And we become more messed up because of it.
You will have times where you will feel crummy. You will feel lonely, or unwanted. That will not go away. I'm sure even Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry sometimes think that there's something really ugly about themselves. I think most of us get that. Sometimes we can be our own harshest critics. So... do what you can to push those thoughts out of your head. Do something with your life that you can be proud of. Get (or keep) your true friends who will love you and who will see your beauty. They matter as much (if not more) than what some shallow person might or might not think.
I wish you the best.