This girl I am going after says she's 5'9. I measured my height today and I'm a tad bit under 5'7. So potentially we are looking at a 2-2.5 inch difference. Things have been going GREAT through texting and we are eventually gonna meet sometime soon. I told her I was about 2 inches shorter than her already.
So now I was thinking of buying shoes that give me like a 2 inch boost. When we first meet I wanna close the gap as much as possible. I feel like if I do that, she will not think about my height at all and can focus on my personality. Lets say if we share a romantic kiss then BAM I got her hooked and eventually when she finds out I'm a little shorter she won't even care about it by then.
PLUS, When she wears heels I can close the gap there a little and in pictures it won't look as awkward when we are next to each other. Only time I won't have my shoes on would be like in a private room with her and we could be doing something like cuddling and she won't even notice anyways lol. So what do y'all think? Could it work? Is it OK to do and not feel bad about it? Could this backfire? Need opinions please! Thanks in advance! :)
Coming from a family where everyone is under 5'6", I feel your pain. My poor cousins deal with it all the time! I say definitely wear the boots or shoes or whatever- know why? For your own confidence boost! If you feel confident, you'll come off a lot better than if you're worrying about your height. Do it! It's not like you're lying about your height- you already told her outright. I'm sure, her being above average height for a woman, that she's used to being a little taller- so don't feel to self conscious. You'll be great!
Don't wear the shoes. I've never seen "heels" for guys that looked good. 5'9" is pretty tall for a girl; you're probably not the first guy she's been interested in who was shorter than her. If height were that important to her, she would have backed off when you admitted to being shorter than her. If you don't act like height difference is a problem for you, she's less likely to view it as one either.
Also, you being shorter isn't necessarily a bad thing for her - a lot of girls are more than happy to use a guy who's close to them in height as an excuse to never have to wear uncomfortable high heels ;)
Did you guys meet online? You've already your shorter, so don't sweat it. If she was that concerned about your height she would have backed out already. Plus she's on the tall side, she's probably used to being taller than some.
When you guys meet, just be yourself and don't try to hide who you truly are. If she can't handle the fact that you are slightly shorter, she's not right for you.
Personally, pumps on a guy wouldn't seem right. It may be more awkward than not.
I say be comfortable as you are, if you told her and everything is going good you shouldn't sweat it. It doesn't seem like she has an issue about it. Sometimes tall when like shorter guys. If you really are a concerned about the height difference, ask her if it matters. If it doesn't don't worry about it.
be who you are. don't change for her. you are you, and that's awesome. so, you're shorter than her, so what?! that's how it is:) she probably doesn't care, and if she does, she's not right for you. <3 good luck ~~
She already knows you are shorter than her so there's high chance that she won't wear high heels. But it'd be nice if you both look compatible for the first meeting. 2 inch heels are not too much for a guy's wearing anyways. Good luck ^^
maybe get her shoes that make her look shorter. I kiddin'
You already told her before hand that she is a tad bit taller then you, but I get the first impression scenario and I think if you get some boots that make you a bit taller, it'll put her first impression of you at ease and make herself a bit more comfortable with you.
If you do hit it off, she'll get used to your average height.
A funny story, my wife got these new knee dominatrix like type boots and now she is 1.5 inches taller then me haha, and I'm 5'7 and she is 5'6. She got them to wear to France, what a fashionista.
You should wear the shoes if that makes you more comfortable man, I'm not short but I know what you mean when you say you want a fair chance. It's not like you are betraying her, because she knows you are shorter. Wear the shoes and sweep her off her feet.
But you already told her how short you are and it hasn't deterred her, so what's the point? If you meet her and you're actually the same height, she might think something's up :P
It kind of puzzles me because like 90% of guys will say they think it's stupid and "false advertising" for a girl to stuff her bra to attract a guy if he's going to see her boobs later on anyway. If it makes you more relaxed then go for it, but don't pretend it makes sense, haha.
Personally, what I would do is talk to her about my insecurity because she'd probably be fine with letting me know she really doesn't care about it.
Yeah, buy the shoes if it will make you feel better. And don't worry about your height. A friend of mine is 5'6 and he ONLY goes for tall girls and he always has some long legged model looking girl. I think it's because he's confident.