I have developed a deep hatred for very good looking beautiful women they have all way judge me on my looks I know I am not the best looking or they judge me on the fact I am not that bright and so on.
I am a honest, carrying, loyal, and respectful however I am very shy. I have been rejected a lot based on the physical and they won’t take the a chance to get to know me. now I have found myself turning in to a big jerk towards them .when they need help I won’t lift a finger to help I go out of my way to make them feel bad I won’t hold doors for them I just cut them off I guess you all get the picture all I ever wanted was to get married a have a big family I am 35 and time is running out fast. Am I wrong for feeling like this
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"very good looking beautiful women they have all way judge me on my looks"
Guess what - you're going to prize them on their looks? It's okay then for them to value you based on yours. If you're going after "very beautiful" women, then you're probably going after women who put a lot of time and effort into looking the way that they do, and then expecting them to not care if you don't do the same. I'm not saying that physical looks should be the most important factor in anything, but you're judging based on looks too.
Also, you talk about being caring, loyal, and respectful, but sounds like you've got NiceGuyitis - the unfortunate malady where men hide behind the excuse of being really great guys that are rejected for shallow reasons, but react with bitterness and anger when a girl's not interested. You think that kind of attitude would make any woman want to be with you? It's scary to be with a guy who has anger problems or who'll always take feeling dejected out on you.
Is it wrong to feel like people aren't giving you a chance based on shallow reasons? No, not at all.
Is it ridiculous to throw around hatred, whining, and a bad attitude and then STILL complain that they don't want to get to know you? Yes. If a guy refused to help me, went out of his way to make me feel bad, and dropped doors on me? Wouldn't even matter if he WAS attractive. He's still not worth a moment of my time or affection.
Also, since you commented on intelligence - whether or not you're bright is something for you to consider, since I don't know you. But I will say intellectual connections can mean a lot. I couldn't date a man who can't have an in-depth conversation with me about literature or new studies, because those are things I'm hugely interested in. We probably wouldn't have much to talk about if he wasn't really academically-centred. That's not really about judging someone for their intelligence as much as it is finding someone who I can really connect with.
In short - I'm sorry that you feel like you're getting the short end of things. It sucks. It ALWAYS sucks to feel like someone blows you off because you don't fit a physical ideal. But reacting the way you are isn't going to do you any favors, either in terms of getting a relationship or personally.13