there was once this guy I liked who I thought was 'out of my league' but the more I got to know of him, he disappointed me quite a bit.
i learnt not to put people on a pedestal after that. we all aren't perfect. my fiance is not perfect.
i just learnt no ones out of my league. I'm not sure if it's because I'm confident and have had a lot of comments about my looks, but I definitely believe it's a mindset. once I get over that, I'm peachy keen.
This happened with me and my boyfriend. I thought he was super cute and out of my league, I wasn't going to go after him. But I kept seeing his profile (we met online) come up in my matches. I think he noticed me looking at his profile a few times and took the initiative. We have been dating for 2 years now :)
LoL yes! I really don't see myself the way others do.. I'm told often that I'm beautiful and people compare me and tell me how I'm more attractive that girls I'm friends with.. I think my friends are beautiful and I'm jealous of them for a lot of their qualities, It makes me so uncomfortable when people rank me against my friends!...Girls in high school that I use to be friends with use to imagine the perfect woman combining our qualities (there were like 8 girls).. They always would leave me out on purpose because they wanted to keep me humble and unaware that guys liked me so that they would get the attention although I was shy then and was unaware that guys saw me as "hot" lol now, it's been brought to my attention enough by others but I don't let it get to my head.. but if that puts me in a higher league lol I'm all for it... Finding a boyfriend who is equal in looks but isn't a player/full of himself/ has a great fun loving personality/ is ambitious etc.. It's nearly impossible!
Being superficial with a genuine love.. So hard to find :(
Never, but here's what I experience when you play in a league you're not in.
I've been with beautiful women, and honestly, physically I'd probably be only a 7. Truth is, they were in to me. But I was uncomfortable with this, because I didn't like how we looked together. It made me feel, insuperior. That's not the word. It made me feel unnatural, being with this kind of woman. Being with a beautiful woman you seduce feels so unnatural. It's very possible for my to do this, but I choose not to because it's too awkward.
The women I go for are the women who turn their heads when I enter the room. Something ticks in their unconscious, and it just makes them take me in visually. Those are the only woman's I would ever approach. Because I didn't have to prove myself to them. I've already gotten their attention by being me.
Quite a bit actually. Some of exes I thought to be highly more attractive than myself. Was very scrutinized by my friends, and even her friends acknowledged that I was better looking. We sometimes are our own worst enemies.