So I'm not a fat girl but I hate the way I look in bathing suits which obviously prevents me for wanting to go to the pool with my boyfriend. I really don't want him to see me in a bathing suit because I have stretch marks on my sides and hips and even though I'm thin my arms are jiggly which with regular clothes doesn't look awful but in underwear or bathing suits it makes me feel disgusting. Also the reason why we haven't had sex.
how important is the way your girlfriend looks in a bathing suit to you? Would you break up with her because of it?
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Okay, you hate the way you look (sometimes) and you feel disgusting (sometimes) and you're choosing to not have sex (even though you want to) and you're afraid of losing your boyfriend because of who you really are.
So, maybe you should look a little deeper into this than just the bathing suit issue; I bet you could use some confidence, self esteem, and so on in multiple areas. Then, the bathing suit concern dissolves on its own.
Because: a) you're probably negative about yourself and that isn't attractive. B) you sound like the type of person who can't wear what she wants or go where she wants or do what she wants which seems very sad and frustrating. C) if you felt better, you'd know that any guy worth being with would NOT leave over stretch marks or jiggly arms.
Here's a secret: Your boyfriend KNOWS how big you are already; you're not "hiding" anything. And he knows how your arms (and every other girl's arms) jiggle sometimes. He probably doesn't care. He'd probably be ecstatic to see you in a bathing suit at last, let alone have sex finally!
And if he DOES care, then he's a jerk. You'd find out after one trip to the pool and you'd know to dump him, which might help you with your self confidence problem anyways.3