You need to have stuff in common with a partner, but then they say opposites attract. Do you look for a more similar or more different person?
What needs to be in common?
What are traits that you have that you would prefer your partner not to have? Do you like those traits about yourself?
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- Half and half50% (3)25% (1)40% (4)Vote
- More different17% (1)0% (0)10% (1)Vote
- Peanut butter and jelly0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
When I'm looking for a partner, I want them to share my personal values or at least hold very similar ones. I also want them to be in sort of the same state of mind as I am - such that they have personal goals that are in line with my personal goals, and that we have enough shared experiences to understand where one another is coming from. I think these things are important to have in common because they minimize the possibility of conflict over things that are integral to who each person is.
I also want someone who sort of makes up for my shortcomings, however - I'm naturally a very shy, withdrawn sort of person, and I enjoy having people around who are friendly and spontaneous because they usually know how to draw me out of my shell.2