My brother was murdered 2 years ago and since then, I have been planning on getting a memorial tattoo in remembrance of him. I also am a recovering cutter, and want to get some writing near (not over) my scars. I finally have come up with exactly what I want, only to find out that my fiance doesn't want me to get any tattoos. He says they're unattractive. I love tattoos and don't currently have any, because I only want to get a few that will really mean a lot to me. I've tried negotiating with him but he seems to be set on it and just says "but I don't like them, they're really unattractive and meaningless".
Should I get them anyway and hope he will learn to accept them? Or should I just forget it, even though it would mean so much to me and I've been planning on it for so long?
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A tattoo is forever, and hopefully so is your future marriage. But if he is against them, you might take that as a sign that you guys might not be lifetime compatible. It really isn't about the tattoo, but about the difference in your likes and dislikes. I am guessing this is not the only area you clash in. If you think you want to keep the relationship, you can have the tattoo drawn up as pen and ink and have it framed and hang it on the wall, and have the tribute to your brother.
There might be a bigger issue to consider. Do you want to be married to a guy who tells you what to do? Marriages are not as easy as Hollywood makes them appear in those "happy ever after" films. Fewer than half make it for a lifetime, and some of them last only because they are stuck with each other for whatever reason. The important thing is to talk about everything with your finance, and make sure he knows all of your reasons, and if he still agrees, decide which you want more, your way or your life with him.