Hey people, I just have a question. Theirs this guy who's flirted with me, danced with me, hugged me while rubing my back.. every time I see him he's looking into my eyes.. I just want to know, I saw him today & I haven't seen him for 2 weeks & I've only known him for 3 weeks. I was walking down a... Show More
I feel like an idiot.. But I'm shy & freeze up around him!
What Guys Said
I have experience with a real shy, she couldn't look at me, barely utter some words. When we just got to meet each other it was kind of okay, but I noticed she was shy. Soon she was acting really, really shy and I could barely hear her speak but luckily I have a lot of patience. But I liked her a lot, I could see she was nice and I wanted to talk to her more often, it just didn't turn out that way. When I would see her on the campus I would want to approach her, but every time she would see me from a distance she would walk away or if standing with friends turn her back to my direction.
I don't think she was doing it intentionally but to me it seemed like she was trying to avoid me and ignoring me, which made me sad. But I started thinking about it and realized she is just so shy, that it's logical that she behaves the way she does. I still tried to get her attention but was just more cautious as I didn't want to scare her off, make her feel very uncomfortable, or just in case she was ignoring me after all.
The rare times I did catch her and could talk a bit she didn't look at me, usually she would look down at the ground while walking and then once or twice during a conversation briefly (for a second or two) look up at me and I could see she was smiling.
So her actions did make me a bit sad in the beginning and afraid that she hated me or something, but it must have just been her shyness that made it seem that way.
What Girls Said
don't worry I get very shy too. some people think it's cute but it's always nice to have confidence. the best advice I can give from my own experience is to just relax. take a deep breath. he is only a person you shouldn't make yourself nervous. never question your own identity, someone will either like you for who YOU are or not at all. just be yourself!