I'm sick of the movie portrayals, and the groups of women, who compete to be as unimpressed by things as possible. Sometimes it's girls with little to offer, expecting the man to jump through hoops and walk on eggshells to prove they are worthy of her presence. It's irritating.
A relationship shouldn't be a power struggle.
I've been in situations where the girl left the moment I wasn't actively impressing her. Had a "friend" once who said "Why should I ever take time from my life to meet a guy? They should be the ones making the effort." So she got to focus on keeping her grades up and enjoy swarms of attention without lifting a finger.
Guys just can't get away with that kind of stuff. If a guy spends his life focusing on school or a career, he basically ends up alone. Girls can be passive, shy, or nerdy and still get plenty of attention. But a guy doesn't get attention unless he's a "real man", makes the move, isn't stingy with his own money, has experience, isn't awkward about the approach, etc. etc.
So if I was to say anything, the two words I would use for the first personality traits I look for are "humble" and "appreciative". Just understanding that I'm just as human as she is, not some superhero.
Enjoying their company already and being attracted to them. If I can laugh with them and feel warmth and comfort, I know that I can enjoy most time with them. If they can be witty and our convo happens easily and there's mutual quick wit, it builds a quick attraction.
Understanding the same principles and views is highly important also.
I fell quickly for my boyfriend because there was an immediate click of simply fitting together and I couldn't get enough of his gorgeous smile and the warmth and spark in his eye. It was just...there.
Well, you can't NOT notice their appearance first, unless you're blind. But the very next thing I pay attention to is their attitude/demeanor/personality. I can sniff out an arrogant, egotistical, a$$hole in seconds. And when I do, I do a 180 and walk away.