i am in a graduate level school program. since I was young it was drilled into my head by my parents that I will go to college and graduate school. so I picked the school option I liked the most and had the greatest interest in.
but deep down I often wish I lived in a time where I didn't have to do anything. where I could just meet a nice man, get married, and be a wife and mom and maybe have a small part time job.
i will admit it, I am the submissive type. I like dating an older man who can take care of me. I don't mean take care of me with loads of money! I mean I am old fashioned...as long as we could be comfortable I do not have a problem with him being the worker and me being the wife and mother.
you know, a traditional, old fashioned relationship. where the man is the stronger somewhat older one. now I do not want to date someone too old, maybe ten years older at the most. but I do look to older, more powerful men than myself. not on purpose, I can't help it. I'm naturally submissive.
but it seems like nowadays women get criticized, that they are expected to work, often to be like men.
i am totally for women being powerful career women and never getting married or having kids if that's what they want.
but sometimes I feel like that's all I am expected to do, that in this society (America) I will have a harder time just being a wife and mother. that people (Especially other women) condemn and criticize a woman for wanting to be an old fashioned woman.
What do you think? I expect to get a lot of opinionated answers.
i am going to get my degree because I want to have it down pat but I would rather have a much smaller scale career, or even stop working down the line if I had kids and a husband.
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In the real world, lots of women go to college, start a career, meet a man, fall in love, and start having babies, and that puts them right back in that place where they themselves may have claimed they'd never want to be: a stay-at-home mom. But having a baby can really change how you feel, and many moms quickly realize that they don't want someone else raising their children.
If you run the numbers (something few really do), you might be surprised how little a second income really adds to a household once you factor in the costs of going to the job, work clothes, restaurant lunches, and daycare costs. If you're lucky enough to be in a high-paying industry, then, yes, you can beat those costs, but a lot of people can't, and many don't realize that they are making less money by working more and paying someone else to raise their children.
There are also PLENTY of men who not only understand that, but who would prefer that their wife be the one who raises their kids, so that they both know their child is getting the care and love every kid deserves. It's also easier to work harder and be more focused at work when you have someone supporting you in the home, who makes sure your non-work needs are taken care of and that the house isn't falling apart when he's at work. The "traditional" roles are definitely not gone, they're just a lot less advertised.
It's good that you are going to school so that you have OPTIONS, but being a stay-at-home mom and housewife IS one of those options. And that gives you the ability to start a home-based business, which can earn a surprising amount of money (since costs are so low) and be just as rewarding as an out-of-the-home career. You could also just work part-time locally, to reduce work costs and have more time for kids and managing the home.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of those options. While it's true that many people didn't give women the respect they deserved for the domestic role, that role has always been both NEEDED and WORTHY OF RESPECT.3