Are men more attracted to women who look like their mothers?
More so in build than in physical appearance.
Example: If a man's mother and sisters are short and thin, will he be more attracted to women who are short and thin because that is the female standard he has grown up with?
Or is it the opposite?
I know it tends to be a person by person thing, but it would explain my boyfriend's words and actions.
I am short and thin. I have an athletic build (narrow hips, no excess fat, toned, small bust/butt, 17% bodyfat) and my boyfriend's family is very big. The women on his side are all around 6'0, very busty and curvy and they carry more excess weight. This makes sense, due to their height and all, but they all have a bit of a belly. Which is fine, whatever.
My boyfriend, however, is 6'5, and is in very good shape and has zero excess fat. He has a very low body fat percentage (less than or close to 6%)
Anyway, my boyfriend always takes me out to eat and tells me I need to gain weight and lately he's taken to patting my stomach and telling me that "that's his baby in there." Even though I'm not even pregnant!
I don't know what's going on with him. He was totally fine with me when we met (5 years ago), but now it seems like he's trying to mold me to fit the build of his sisters and mother. Which, of course, will never happen due to my metabolism, genetics, and eating habits.
I'm just trying to figure out what's going through his head here. I don't want to jump to any conclusions.
If you could explain both my situation and what you think the pattern with most men is, that'd be great. :)
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Paging Dr Freud!
You've touched on a subject that many psychiatrists, therapists, and psychologists have wondered about (and studied) for over a century. I can give you my opinion, but it's just that - that's my disclaimer.
Anyway, some folks argue that what you are saying is true - that men look for a body type in women that matches the ideal they were raised with. I would say this has some merit as a theory, but really depends upon two things:
What kind of relationship did the male have with these women family members? Was it loving and supportive, or demeaning and abusive?
What kind of person is your boyfriend? Is he generally passive around women, or is he the dominant type of personality?
But at the end of the day, I think communication is what's called for here. You should sit down and talk to him about this stuff. Among other things, he might be thinking about more serious subjects such as marriage and children, and his antics are a way of displaying his desires (however immature they might be!).
I hope this helps. Good luck!0