Why does beauty seem to be the defining factor in what attracts guys to women. I'm a 23 year old female - I believe that I'm friendly and easy to get along with, but I've never had a date before. I'm in graduate school and I used to think it was just my lack of time that was preventing me from finding anyone, but there amongst a group of very busy, educated females, the more attractive one always gets the dates. Guys, what advice do you have for a girl that does not necessarily turn any heads from guys? I'm striving to get into medical school, so I'm quite busy as it is, but sometimes I get a bit down about my situation. I suffer from acne and I have African American hair that has been styled nicely into a bob when I go to the hairdresser, but in between those times it's usually a mess..
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As a budding expert in the human condition you must concede that part of this equation belongs to male biology. We're hardwired hormonally to seek mates whose physical attributes promise healthy progeny. So yes, structural characteristics such as healthy skin, and a 7/10 waist-to-hip ratio inform our decisions subconsciously because we're already hardwired to spread genes/jeans. And even though intelligent, rational men can be predisposed to seek wit, compassion, and wisdom in a partner, the poor bastards are constantly bombarded by the myth of Barbi through mass market advertising. She's impossibly tall, perfectly proportioned, sports a toasty brown tan, has perfect hair and teeth, drives a convertible, and remains desperately in love with a plastic man who'd drop Babs in a New York minute, if only he had the plastic balls to leave their empty relationship.
You can look into prescriptions for the acne, and you should take a couple extra steps in the morning to improve your hair don't, because a little extra attention to superficial detail will make you feel better. You will never fit into Barbi's circle of wannabes because you are obviously far too genuine. Intellect, compassion, culture, and a noble career path are very sexy attributes. Your typical twenty-something man/pig won't necessarily come to this conclusion, but the person you marry will thank his favorite god he found you.
Don't let your fears keep you locked in the apartment on that one night a week you actually have time to get out in the world. Be your bad a**, fearless and funny self. Personality counts! You can wake up next to a hot bod, but then you have to deal with the person inside it. And may god have mercy if you have to pretend to enjoy the insipid drivel of an airhead or a mimbo all damn day. Woman, you got a lot more goin' on than are willing to take credit for. Besides, the potential rejection we all face while dating ain't nuthin compared to the ritualized humiliations you will endure and survive throughout med school.3
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