I'm not looking for an ego boost. I might get really pretty ones, but it seems the ones who aren't so physically appealing just don't notice me. Pretty women have assumed there's a long line of women who are into me. I'm social, talk to all the women, even when I'm not into them, and a little nerdy, so I don't think I'm intimidating. I'm not the best looking guy either, I'm smart and from what I've heard, charming though. Am I just not picking up on the signs from most women? It's not like I can't get girls. I get them rarely, but they're always really pretty and guys will assume I'm a pimp. A girl I'm talking to who's really pretty told me she has a feeling I have really high standards, even though I didn't tell her anything. Not really the case though. There was a girl today who kept looking over her shoulder at me, so she couldn't hide the fact that she was looking at me. She was talking to guys, THEN looking over her should at me. BUT...as soon as a I thought "well she's kinda cute" and she ended up talking to someone else and ignoring me. I'm not jealous, but are the prettiest ones just more aggressive? Am I just unresponsive if they're not really pretty?
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Based on your description, the most obvious explanation is that, assuming these less pretty girls are into you, they may find you intimidating in some sense. I guess people respond best to what their experience teaches them, and if an average looking girl finds that "less attractive" guys respond to them best, they may just feel more comfortable engaging with that kind of guy. They may also be less assertive in a pick up context, and wait for special attention / specific signals before they decide it's a good idea to go there.
It may also be a matter of preference. Some girls genuinely don't find the alpha male personality attractive. Some like the subtle, softly spoken type. Some prefer to be approached by someone warm and inviting, rather than by someone boisterous and overtly confident. Etc etc. "Different strokes for different folks" -- as I was just taught by another GAG user. Simple, but profound!
If there's someone in particular you're trying to get closer to, I would suggest giving them a bit more special attention, to make it obvious that you've noticed them. If you're trying to figure out a way to make all women weak in the knees, well, that's just being greedy, isn't it?0