My bf's ex is very cute/hot. Honestly, do you compare your exes in terms of physical appearances?
Also, she had kinna dumped him too so I don't think he ever really got over her...
- No, I never compare my exes in terms of physical appearances.Vote A
- Yes I compare my exes in terms of physical appearances but it doesn't affect anything.Vote B
- Yes I compare my exes in terms of physical appearances.Vote C
- See answerVote D
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I voted B.
Sure, I can make comparisons, because the differences do exist. Denying that one person has something different or similar to another is bullshit. Anyone who says they don't make the comparison is probably lying to you. They made the comparison at some point and on some level. I'm pretty sure of it. But yeah, just because you can make the comparison, doesn't mean it matters. In my mind the past is the past, and an ex is an ex for a reason. She's gone, the relationship is over, and it's in the past. I'll just leave it there.
As for your boyfriend, he probably has some lingering feelings. It's entirely possible. All of which depends on a variety of factors such as: how he felt about her, how long he was with her, what happened, how they broke up, how long it's been since the break up, how he copes or handles a break up, how long he gets over it, and even then, you can never fully predict what's what with how he will react to all this. With knowledge of all this information,the most you could get out of this is some understanding.
Anyway yeah he might still be hung up on her. In which case, that really sucks for you, but there's not a lot you can do about it. Yeah, maybe he does compare you to her, but again there's not much you can do about it. I think maybe your best option here, is to just do your best, be patient with him, and try to understand.
Who knows, maybe if you're the best damned girlfriend you can be, there won't be reason to compare, but if I'm being honest, that's still no guarantee. Still, so long as you're giving this relationship your all, you can take comfort in the fact that if things go south, it's probably not your fault. Heck, if this whole hang up on his ex is a deal breaker, there is no shame in leaving. I think it's entirely understandable.
Whatever happens though, I wish you the best of luck.4