Lolol, my question sounds stupid . . but I'm serious though. Everyone looks so much more attractive when they smile, and smiling is contagious . . and when another person smiles you can't help but smile back. But nowadays, I feel like everywhere I go . . people just look mad at life. Like, if I'm going somewhere . . I'll smile at anybody that walks by me, and they just give me the death stare lol. Not EVERYONE, but more females then guys. Yesterday, I went to chipotle, and the girl that was making my burrito looked so upset, and didn't even smile once. Soo, when I was taking my money out . . I was taking a long time and my friend was making fun of me for taking so long, & I said "Sorry, I was distracted by her booootiful face" and it was the cutest thing ever, the girl working there put on the biggest smile, and aw. It just made me want to put a smile on every face I encountered that day.
I just hate seeing seeing people unhappy, and I think even if you aren't having a good day, you should try your best to stay positive.
So I wanted to know, if someone walks by you and smiles, do you smile back? or do you just not pay attention to it at all. . . or even when you're having a bad day & you're stuck at work . . do you try to smile through it or do you let your mood affect you?
you know what? that is actually an interesting question...I mean some people are what I call "smile and happiness radiant"...I adore those...they have a super hero ability in staying positive in the darkest times...sometimes they based such attitude on"faith" that there is God and that he won't let them down...some of them focus on the positives of any bad event, like what do they can learn from what happened.
For me, I think it is not just a smile, it is an attitude that can be radiant and help others even if without a smile...
Funny thing is, in our Islamic sharea -the one that fanatics (religiouphobic & extremists) dislike to show nor admit- a believer is told to have a credit in life and after life with just smiling to other people...there even a special door in heaven for those who smiles and cheer up others (I know it sound fantasia for some people but just humor me and try to get my point).
Anyway, I salute you for being one of those :-)
Uh I forgot to say, the explanation is, the world is really full...no seriously lately the world is filled with many global sad events that is depressing many over the world.
I couldn't agree more. I live in a town that they think their jelly-beans don't stink. Even when approached with a smile and a warm greeting they are just mellow toned. I just want to back slap some of em,lol. THAT would make me smile even more.
I work in a store front that we get a lot of tourist and I get a lot of compliments for being so nice, kind, and professional. I got three proposals to manage other owners business just because of the kindness is so rare,lol.
Anyway my smile is contagious as well as others for me so I do not get all the credit. Life is too short to be depressed about most things out of our control anyway so why worry , smile spread the love and be kind to people.
As well as a significant other or just everyday people we cross paths with throught the day. Give everyone a new clean slate. Others who caused a frown does not mean that you did . So If I never met you YOU get a free smile :),
And If I know you most likely we will both be smiling because we bvacame friends because of kindness lol.
This is not a stupid question. I agree with you, but I must say I am also one of those people who don't smile that much. I was called arrogant and unapproachable a few times because of that, but in fact I am not like that at all... I just use this "dark" look like a shield. I do not trust people very much, and that's because of some things from my early years...
I just have this thoughts in my head, that everyone will and would do something against me if it benefits them in some way, so I am in my defensive mode all the time...
Also sometimes when someone is passing next to me, and smile at me, I just think they smile AT me because of something... I am just not used to it...
I hope this helps even a bit, understanding why at least some people don't smile more,but you look like a good girl, so here is one smile for you... :)
I just started smiling again this year. Its hard because I was diagnosed having depressive disorder and I live in Alaska where it stays dark and cold 8 months out of the year but I try to stay as positive as I can and think about the good things I have.
5 star and not a stupid question. I think people are used to hate and hate is easier to spread for some reason. Hurt people hurt people. Pain is spread more than love even though it is more pleasurable to spread love. People tend to feel more comfortable holding onto their baggage. If more people smiled and more people were kind then more people would smile and more people would be kind. People are too afraid to get hurt over and over and trust issues abound with strangers. We are taught from a young age to not trust strangers. We also hear that if someone is smiling then it is creepy or they want something from you. Glad you asked this.
Mostly because they just don't have good smiles. I mean, if you knew you didn't like your smile, would you still do it?
I took with my friend to hospital, because she had a difficulty in breathing because of her allergy. So she needed an immediate solution.
We went to the emergency department, and all people there (except one person) never smiled, and didn't allow her to enter the emergency, instead they asked her to go to a specialist. When she asked them where is the specialist, they were all like "We don't know". Like they don't even want to look at her, or talk with her. I felt really sad, that I had to say it out loud "I think you should at least smile at a patient, if you can't solve her problem, you should at least give her a psychological comfort", and I took my friend and went out to find the right doctor.
I always have this rule: "Smile, because everybody you see in front of you, has tons of problems too". I smile at everybody. even if I was in a bad mood, I would just force my facial expression to draw a smile. I think this would open people's hearts to you, and break many awkward walls.
I agree completely. I'm usually always smiling, even if I don't intend to. I have a naturally smiley face but nothing beats the big happy smile :D
Ive noticed that smiling tends to often people up. When people give me attitude or just don't like me, I can always get them to smile by flashing them a big smile. At times, it can be difficult to smile because of the bad things going on but its best to stay positive and smile anyway. :D
You guys should visit here! Everyone tends to smile at everyone here. By the way I'm from the Philippines. I don't know it's just our nature. Even when floods are happening, you could see people from the roofs of their houses waving and smiling on the cameras, street kids play basketball then smiles at the cameras (still during that flood), and all that. We just have this tank of optimism in us that can never be empty. And thus, we smile a lot. :D
Good question! Personally I walk around with a normal expression and when I think about something hilarious then I start to smile and try to stifle my laughter because its seen as weird to laugh by oneself. I would smile at others more, but sometimes politeness is misinterpreted as flirting, so maybe that's why people don't smile much?
Ugh, it I a stupid question because you can't tell people what to do with their faces or tell them what their mood is based on how they use their facial muscles. People that smile too often for no reason are creepy. I only smile when I'm laughing or when I talk to people about something happy. Otherwise I don't smile because I don't f***ing want to I am just not the type of person to smile for no reason. I'm not upset in fact I am usually pretty happy, when I do smile a lot people think it is okay to come talk to me and expect me to be nice. You have the right to smile and think others look better when they do smile but it is not okay to tell others to smile.
God, you're one of those happy-go-lucky people aren't you.
But seriously, for most people it's just not something they put much thought into. Most of the time, I have my face in what I consider to be a 'neutral' mode, but it looks like a scowl! Even when I'm in a good mood, most of the time.
If I'm not mad or upset, I'm pretty much smiling (at least a little) all the time, haha! And I laugh A LOT!
I have one of those scowly faces- it does that naturally- probably because my eyesight sucks and I can't ever EVER find my friggin glasses. But if someone smiles at me I smile back, sure. BUT... when someone walks by and says SMILE, ITS NOT THAT BAD, I say "my face hurts when I smile", because don't tell me what to do. I hate that, I'm not a performing monkey.