This is something I have noticed from both genders. They say things like "It's about the chemistry" and "His appearance doesn't matter to me" or something about love. Yet these same people will talk about who is "hot" or "good looking" and so on.
One guy I know will give lectures on how important he says love is and all that then be talking on the phone with a potential date and tell me he's worried that she's fat when he himself is really fat and he'll make these disgusting comments about girl's private parts constantly and would not stop until I told him he was being desperate.
I read all the time about how guys bash on girls for wanting a good looking guy when I know they themselves want a pretty girl. Yet both will deny their desire for physical attraction.
I do think that physical appearance can matter less to some than others. I know of one guy who probably won't admit it but he is looking for supermodel looks. Yet I have met others who go out with what would be considered "mediocre."
So why do people get uptight for either gender wanting a more physically appealing S/O? I notice the girls get bashed much more than the guys for this.
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I hate it when people say that. I think it's to try and give ugly people like me false hope, or something. I know I am ugly, but I don't talk about it to people I know offline. However, I do like to talk about in on my online blog, or I talk about it to get advice on Q & A sites like this one or just to vent about my experiences. For the most part, people offline think of me as a happy go lucky girl who always has a smile on my face.
The most common responses I get online when I talk about it is: that looks don't matter, no one ever makes fun of people, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I just get so irritated, either these people live in a perfect world, or they're in denial.
Looks do matter. In order to get in a relationship, someone has to be attracted to a person. Looks attract people first, and personality wins them over. This is something people won't admit when they say it's personality only. Of course personality is important. You need to get along with her person you are dating. No one is going to deny that. But personality is not the only important part. Both looks and personality are important.
And anyone who tries to say people never make fun of anyone else is an idiot. They are probably the type of people who ignore bullying and pretend it doesn't happen. I don't know how anyone can grow up in this world and say that people don't get made fun of. They must live under a rock.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Okay, sure, it's true to an extent. There are people who people can agree and disagree of whether or not they find them attractive, but there are certain people who most people will agree that they are hot. Just like there are people like me who everyone agrees is ugly. I have never met one person in my life who thinks I am beautiful, no matter how many makeovers I've had. Not one. My best friend though? I've never met one person who thinks she is ugly. They all call her gorgeous and hot.
I'm the only person who has ever lived my experiences, so to have someone who has never met me tell me it's not true and it's like my negative attitude that makes people think I am ugly makes me mad. No one who knows me knows I am depressed about my looks. Not one person. And it's mostly strangers who make fun of me.
The theory that people know I think I am ugly makes them call me ugly is the dumbest one. What about an anorexic girl who is tiny but thinks she is fat? Do people automatically think she is fat? Nope. Sorry they don't. So anyone who goes by the law of attraction theory is a moron and needs to face reality because they live in a fantasy world.
I know I am ugly, no guy will ever be attracted to me, and that's fine. I don't blame them. People want an attractive partner. I've accepted it. So I find other things to keep me happy in life. I will never ever be in a relationship. What bothers me is getting made fun of by people.0
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