I've been noticing this for a few weeks now (these are always girls I don't know and have never talked to. The environment could be anywhere, eg cafe, my college etc)
When I'm sitting down and a girl is walking past me, I often look up and notice her looking towards my direction (first time I noticed it was when I thought the girl was looking intently at a space next to me, and I was thinking "Well, why the feck is she looking at an empty space?" :)
The heads of the girls aren't even turned towards my direction; they are looking at me from the 'corner of their eyes' so to speak. When I notice that someone is walking past me, and I look up, I'll almost always notice their eyes (iris and pupils) being looking at me and then incredibly fast looking away, when I'm looking at them.
I do realize that people scan their environment, but what baffles me is to fixate the eyes on me and then quickly looking away while walking.
Is what they are doing flirting? Is it conscious or unconscious? From what I've read here girls can't hold eye contact much and often look away, but yet what I read in body language books tell me that eye contact is everything and if they don't hold it then they aren't interested.
So - these all these girls that walk past me, and have their eyes fixated upon me until I look up and "catch" them looking at me and they direct their eyes somewhere else; is that flirting? Is that my que to approach the girl either directly or indirectly?
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"From what I have read HERE,girls can't hold eye contact much and often look away..."
That's your first mistake...don't take this website or its contents THAT seriously.Girls in the real world WILL hold eye contact,and I'm saying this because I do it myself.
Sometimes,when I am scanning,I'm not holding eye contact for one of two reasons.Either I don't think the person is attractive,or my mind is elsewhere and I am not in the flirting mood.
People in general sometimes are comfortable holding eye contact,other times not.But I can't tell you why these girls are looking else where when you look at them...it could be for any reason imaginable.But I will say,if you find a lady attractive,approach her providing she is giving you the signs that she is open to you.Look up flirting signals/body language.Anytime anyone approaches someone,you are taking a risk.So take that risk and don't over think it.