Hard to come up with a title for this situation that doesn't make me sound like a whiny woman, but there it is lol.
I have had long hair for years, about 5 years. Natural, straight, thick and shiny. I've always been proud of it and it's what people compliment me for the most. Because it's so thick, it's heavy and difficult to care for, especially in the summer. So I decided to cut it off, it was about the middle of my back, little longer. I got it cut 2 weeks ago and it's now about at my shoulders. Basically a short layered bob style, no bangs. Anyway, I was feeling great, loving it and my head felt so light and it's so much easier now. The problem is, EVERYONE I know hates it, and is vocal about missing my long hair. My boyfriend's reaction was "What did you do to your hair?!" And now, every time he looks at me, just about, he says "oh, I miss your hair." My friends and family have basically acted the same way. I'm still happy with it, so I'm trying not to let their discouragements get to me,but they just won't stop. I've asked them to stop, told them to shut up, ignored it, they just keep saying things like "I can't wait til it grows back" "How long will it take to grow back?" "I can't believe you did this." I'm getting tired of it. Any tips on how to get them to shut up about it? I'm starting to feel bad. They don't say the cut is badnor looks bad, they just want my long hair back I guess.
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If you like your new haircut, that's what matters. Other people's opinion does not.
Here's what you do: You stop giving a fuck.
Seriously, just stop giving a fuck about what they have to say, and stop giving a fuck right now. Their opinion doesn't matter. If they harp on it, tell them, "Well, fuck you guys. I like what I did. I think it looks good. I don't give a fuck about whether you like it, or not, because I didn't do this for YOU, I did this for ME. Learn to live with it.".
If they ask how long it would take to get it back to that length, tell them it will take years, and that's even IF you decide to grow it back out. But tell them that their fucking whining about it is NOT going to affect your decision, and would take years to get it back to that length even if you did, so they might as well learn to shut the fuck up and live with it. What's done is done.
This is not their decision. It's yours. Put your foot down, and stand your ground. Tell them it's your choice, not theirs. YOURS! Remind them of that. Be strong and forceful. If need be, dole out consequences for those who won't listen. Stop talking to certain people. If they bring it up, walk away. If it's on the phone, hang up. If it's a text, ignore it, or change the subject. If it's on an IM, temporarily block them.
Again, one last time. This is your choice. Their opinion of it is not important. It doesn't enter into it, and it changes nothing. Remind them.5