This video I came across on YouTube shows this guy who records women looking at his bulge (there all sorts of weird things on YouTube, but this one is weird and interesting at the same time
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I have seen some pretty 'out there' things in the pant region of men, and believe me when I tell you that I did not notice it out of attraction, desire, lust, fantasizing, compliment, or 'comparison' - I looked because there was a strange out-of-the-ordinary shadow, and even then it was only a passing glance. Going through my mind, in the few situations its happened, was something like "What the..? I wonder if he realizes." It really is in more of a disbelief that a guy is wearing something that shows it so clearly, since it really is atypical and, yes, strange.
I've actually almost offered a guy a napkin 'cause I thought the 'shadow' was something he had spilled on himself. Nope. I'm glad I realized. The last thing I want is some guy thinking that I was hitting on him because of it.
If a guys bulge is really out there, it is kinda like when I see women in extremely revealing tops... it is hard NOT to have a quick look, even if the reason you're looking is confusion, disapproval, discomfort, or disgust. I am %100 straight, not at all attracted to women, but if a girl with a big chest has a shirt practically down to her nipples and in a pushup bra, you can bet that my eyes will wander there for a second.
Am I condoning anyone to stare at a person's private areas? No. The fact is is that no one should ogle and salivate, especially not when you're casually talking to them. The problem arises when you focus on it, and most importantly if someone touches you... and you can get on me for all you want about me saying that it is most often, when it is unwanted and out of context, done by a man to a woman. THAT is unacceptable. Staring is gross and dehumanizing, but at least it isn't direct harassment or violation.
I don't care what you have or have not got. It is there, everyone knows it even if it is not on display, and again I do not care. Wear what you want, too.
If someone ever asked me if I had done so, my answer would probably be something similar to "Don't flatter yourself." If it was someone I knew, I would probably say yes, maybe say something with dry humor or a salty, deadpan expression, but in a way that would not make them incorrectly think that it was done out of awe or interest.1