I've got an “average” (call it boring) style and personality (for my age), but I really only fancy goth girls. This is rather problematic because:
A) They are rather rare around here.
B) Most of them are a lot younger than me.
C) They wouldn't touch me with a barge poll in my current style.
So I can do either of the following:
A) Stay single until a “normal” girl chats me up (as I can't get myself to make a move on someone if I don't like their look, and I wouldn't know which one to hit). This might take for ever, and I will end up with someone that I don't think as attractive.
B) Try to change my style and integrate myself in my target subculture. It will be very hard, as I don't know anyone that can “introduce me”. Also, I'm probably going to fail (to grasp the deeper meaning) and just make a fool of myself.
C) Keep my style and just hang around where they would. That would make me as much of a freak as they are among “normal” people.
D) Just give up on the other sex, and start collecting model trains like my single male coworkers ...
What should I do?
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I don't think you have to integrate yourself into the subculture. I would go to a goth club (probably in a major city and be sure its 21 and up) to see if this is something you could be interested in full time. I don't think most of the women are that young, I know Goth women into their 40's! Most of the music groups have been around for a long time (bauhaus, kraftwerk, etc) so there is a good possibility you could meet someone your age.
Ask yourself this: what attracts you to them the fantasy, the subculture, what? Then you can more equate yourself with finding a mate to your standard or a role play from someone who isn't quite goth.0