Firstly, I would like to say I do not mean that they "seem" shy or mysterious and so they are good-looking in that sense.
I'm talking about full-on people who whine, complain, and are upfront about how insecure they are to others about their looks saying how ugly they are and yet, people still label them as very good-looking despite this.
I thought people say that being good-looking was mainly about confidence in your looks and how you carry yourself and clearly these people show to have none.
I think that if people honestly and full-heartily think this way, you can argue that confidence in a sense of being good-looking, can almost be seen as void since no confidence doesn't stop them from being perceived as being good looking.
Probably, one may argue now that confidence shown in a person can enhance their looks but really, it just goes to show that people can be as insecure as the volume of the deep blue sea about their looks (and tell you about it so you know they aren't confident) and still be perceived as an outstandingly good-looking person.
You can also link this to sexual attraction as well, people do the same thing with this as well.
I never agreed the idea that confidence is the key to being attractive or good-looking but this just proves my point that the trait of confidence isn't full proof. So what's going on?
yeah I get that but you forgotten that physical beauty is still a factor. you can have zero confidence and be hot as hell, so yeah you still have good looks. confidence is an add-on, like icing on a cake.
you can be a grand 4 tiered cake with no frosting and still be considered a great cake BUT if you are a puny single square cake YET have colorful delicious icing it candles out how puny the cake is. weird metaphor I know, its what first popped into my head lol
Because it's a lie. Confidence does not automatically make someone good looking. Being good looking makes someone good looking. Confidence can make anyone, guy or girl even more appealing but when it comes down to it good looks is about physical attractiveness.
because there is a science to good looks, right proportions, balanced, even, features, etc. This is part of genetics, and can also represent how your health is. Confidence is not everything but it defiantly helps.
Very attractive people can get away with not being as confident. Less attractive people need more charisma, and confidence if they want to even the odds against their better looking competition. In most cases...humor trumps all other non physcial traits. Science studies have continued to suggest women are wired to always fall for the funny guy.
They can have self-esteem issues unrelated to their appearance. If they are saying their looks are the reason they're insecure, it's a way for people to reassure them that they are attractive. They don't want to share their real reasons for lacking confidence, so why not say something that will garner a compliment instead?
Insecure people might have been hurt in the past and they carry that baggage into adulthood, even after they've blossomed from an ugly duckling to the swan. They might fear getting hurt again so they take the route that guarantees no pain---by simply not approaching people and shutting themselves out from everyone else.