Its a million and one things, and no girl is looked upon as the same as the last, because every one is unique in her own way, so different approaches and different talents are all recognised when becoming attracted to any one girl, so really, all I look for first is how genuine she is, then everything else jumps out at me telling me what I find attractive about that individual, because what I might like on one girl, may not look good on another, and vice versa, so really, every girl has the potential to attract any guy, its all down to our genetic outlook on what as an individual finds attractive on another individual, so be yourself, this way perfection is easy to maintain,x
1) Maturity, self sufficient and cool about things. One that doesn't scream, cry and kick if she only got to see her boyfriend once that week.
2) No constant self-absorbed behavior . The girls who expect to be treated like princesses are often the dragons.
3) One that realizes her partner's feelings and needs, sometimes even guys need to be pampered a bit. Pherhaps I don't like her friends? Big whoop, just leave me at home and we could do something else later.
4) An open mind, not afraid to dicuss controversial things. Although she doesn't have to agree.
5) An interest in life, a hobby. Something that drives her.
6) Okay looks, not obese and preferably not too tall (like, really tall) and with that little something in her face that I find cute.
You asked for honesty, and I'm going to be honest.
What I have looked for in a girl has changed over the years.
I used to want a girl who was smart and funny and clever and looks didn't matter so much. I wanted a girl who could be my best friend and we could talk about anything.
That was before I was married.
Since my divorce, my outlook on women has changed. I've realized a lot of things. Most importantly, you have to have more than one friend. Finding that "best friend" girl who you can talk about anything with doesn't work, because when you talk to women about certain things, they remember and don't let it go...ever!
So now I look for a woman who knows how to cook. Someone who is a freak in the bedroom, but not a whore at the bar. A girl who isn't so needy. Someone who has her own life to live and I just happen to be part of it. Someone independent. Someone who doesn't need me but rather wants to be around me. That's what I look for now.
Just for a laugh , ill share something pretty damn personal. When I'd gotten over my divorce and decided to be open to the possibility of love again I decided to analyse my past relationships to see not only where I went wrong, but where I got it right and to define my ideal woman.
I created a word document called "perfect woman spec 1.0". The content is below. You'll notice "personality" is first. While I wouldn't recommend any creates a "checklist" I'd teccomended this as an exercise as it really helps you understand what you want. Sadly I found someone who ticked every box apart from eye color but she wasn't interested in me. Bugger.
Caring and affectionate - understands how I feel and does her best with it
Modest in nature.
Soft and Vulnerable but strong with it
Kind but will encourage and challenge me to be a better person
Friendly and chatty but on the quiet side/shy/sweet?
Active but still happy to cuddle and watch a DVD
Not a girlie girl but still feminine.
Intelligent but happy to be silly
Independent but happy to let me look after her
Forms close personal relationships with a small number of people rather than many impersonal ones
Some shared interest.
Friend first and foremost - trust
She has to interest me in some way.
Shorter than me, ideally petite
Physically fit and active.
Negative / talks negatively about others / complainer
Lack of empathy towards others / children / animals
Uses me. Either practically or emotionally. Self centred.
Well , if you want the absolute truth , then your question will have to be more specific .
Since just like how we have different likes/dislikes with regards to personality / physicality we must remember that none of them are absolute and vary with regards to what you are looking for .
That being said , there are a few basic features which are a must to attract anyone of the opposite sex -
Now both these features can again be broken down to the smallest details and thereby become more demanding but on the whole these features give a sort of blue print on which you as a female can make your own master piece .
Less about appearance more about personality. I want a girl who talks about things but not constantly. Honesty is important. No games and loyalty are also important. I want a girl who stands for something and is smart that is just not another pretty face with no substance.
Looks: eyes are the most important thing for me. Nothing quite like a girl with beautiful eyes. Then the face+hair as a whole. Then it's their boobs. I mean, boobs are awesome! Other things are mostly just that she's reasonably fit, basically that she's not too skinny and not to fat. A nice ass is a plus of course, but not THAT important to me.
Personality: of course the generic stuff such as being nice, friendly, etc is important. Other things I like are a good sense of humor, easy going (doesn't stress or worry too much), and easy to talk to. Having a good work ethic and goals is pretty cool if I'm looking for something long term.
Other things: I think belly button rings are pretty sexy. I also generally prefer shorter girls, like under 5'4 (which is a little weird because I'm 6'1). Sexually I want a girl that's just a little bit slutty. Basically she's willing to do things maybe a little quicker then most, but she's not trying to go to far to soon and has standards. Anything else your curious about?
Attractive, honest, loyal, funny, driven, goal oriented, can be a good wife and a good mom. I like too fight so someone who is interested in the future. Someone who is fun, fun to be with, funny, and willing to try new things
I think everybody is shallow to some degree. We can only judge people for their looks on our first encounter. I think about it this way. The girl I want is not someone I would be embarrassed of being witth or someone I would hide for anyone. I otherwise have no specific requests regarding looks.
I think developing a deep emotional connection with shared interests and appraisals is key. I myself have never experienced something like that and I probably never will.