I'm 28 & I personally don't think I'm good looking but I want a girlfriend so bad. I have a job, car etc. everything else. I have money to go out on dates & fun activities.
To tell you the 100% honest truth, it's not all about sex to me either. I long for a girls companionship & love as well.
But I am just very average looking guy.
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Hello brother. This is a valid question you have asked, and I will provide you a satisfactory solution. And I won't be rude at all, because I know very well how it feels.
I myself am a pretty average looking 27 year old guy (like I'm pretty short at 170cms or 5'7", and slightly overweight). And my face isn't what a woman would actually call attractive. And several years ago, I was in the exact same situation as you - totally depressed and unable to attract women. In fact, there was a point in my life where my confidence was so low that I even considered plastic surgery to alter the appearance of my face. And of course, I never asked any girl out because I was sure of her rejecting me. And like you, I too firmly believed that women only date good looking guys.
Then I realized that there's no use if I keep whining about my looks, and instead I have to find a way of making up for it. That's when I became a total gentleman. I began expressing a lot of kindness towards my female friends, helping them out when they had problems and lending them a shoulder to cry on. Of course, I wasn't doing this just to attract them, because I was equally kind and helpful towards my male friends as well. I completely discarded swear words from my vocabulary, and also gave up using any kind of vulgar/profane language. I also used to crack jokes often, and make the girls giggle.
Please note, I never worked in improving my looks, but instead concentrated on transforming myself into a kind and confident man, with a bit of humor. And you'll be surprised to know the result. I myself never asked any girl out, but SEVEN girls themselves asked me out at various points of my life. Out of those seven, 2 were super hot, 3 were quite pretty and the remaining 2 were above average. That means, in spite of me being average looking (or perhaps below average), the girls who asked me out were never average or below average. I won't get into the details regarding my acceptance of those girls, my relationships with them etc. because these things are beyond the scope of this article. The point I was to drive here is that, if I could do it, so can anyone else.
I agree that some women are shallow enough to date a man only based on his looks (there are such shallow men as well), but I can confirm that such women are the minority. Most women only want a kind and confident man (sometimes with a good sense of humor), and once they get the feeling that their life will be secure with you, your job's done. It is quite easy to win a woman's heart if you just know the way of speaking with her. The most important thing here is that you have to behave in such a way that she gets the impression that your primary objective is 'love' and not 'sex'. Just be kind towards a girl, support her during her hard times, make her laugh, and treat her with respect (rat0