I've always felt that my boyfriend liked me more for my personality than my looks. I'm not as attractive as the girls he's been with and it does get to me every now and then. I know most girls out there would love for someone to like their brain over their looks but I wish for the opposite. I just wish someone would find me hot, but that's never happened because I'm "the smart girl." In fact I just asked him to describe me in one word and he said "intelligent." Is there any way to not be labeled smart once someone thinks you are and how do I get him to see me as a sex object instead ?
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The first thing that comes to mind is "Be careful what you wish for!" as beauty fades with age but wisdom and knowledge tend to grow. That said, I can understand your plight, as a person wants to be adored as a whole and neither mental or physical attraction alone is enough. I would be lying to assure you that your boyfriend finds you attractive physically in the same sense, though it is likely he may, but to that end it is highly dependent on what you look like and your true potential.
The suggestions would only be influenced on your natural appearance which in turn means that if you truly lack that potential you are stuck with what you are, but that is rare, and if anything a change in fashion and a fitting for clothing should be more than enough. Mind you being "sexy" is always an uphill battle. Attractiveness is variable not only on your appearance but the timing and placement of your apparel as well. If you try to look your best when your onlookers are focused elsewhere it is just as wasted as when you look your worst and are the center of attention.0