To most people they have pre set notions of how someone in a particular role should look like and there's no denying that thanks to the society they live in, their mind set of what they want to believe and topping the list is their own insecurities.
I don't get judgmental and if I find a mom (or dad) who looks younger / well maintained it's a reason to compliment them :)
So I say s**** those who judge, do what you want, feel good about yourself, teach your kid the same.
Just if you want a description, for general (insecure) people a 'mom' means someone who is
1. Post preg flab on the stomach and / or hips and / or butt even if not fat AND/OR
2. Does groceries and cooking the whole day or if she's a working woman, looks hassled and discusses kitchen and kids the whole time AND/OR
3. Is demure and looks the way 'THEY' expect i.e. not in vogue clothing etc AND/OR
I hear what you're sayin, but I suppose with a lot of guys, when they see a reaonably young woman who's fit and lookin fine they don't stop to think that she could very well be a mother as well. Just another case of the little head thinkin for the big one.
If she has a lot of bags of clothes and she is dressed in high heels and a business shirt people get the impression that they are a single woman with lots of time money and ambitions and no time for children that's what I think
What makes people assume that someone has no child based off of just looking at them?
Likely the look of youth, fashion, and weight as I find many assume parents are less physically attractive be it looks or dress sense due to not having time to take care of themselves.
What does a "Mom" look like?
Seems generic stereotype is similar to what a "Dad" looks like- less hair (bald/balding for guys and short hair for gals, overweight or out of shape and dressed poorly as in non fashionable or non flatteringly way).
I agree with the others, most people think of a "mom" as a woman who doens't care that much about her looks anymore, because she's had too much in her hands already. If you've watched Desperate Housewives, Lynette is what most people imagine a mom would look like. Loose-fitting clothes, rumpled, maybe stains here and there, no makeup, no accessories that could be grabbed or pulled, comfortable shoes, you get the idea.
Or maybe you just look too young to be a mom. Take it as a compliment =) Better to be like this that the other way around haha...
People who assume I have a child annoy me so much. I have no kids. I like to go shopping I am 22 I am obviously a college student. I go out to clubs yet I still keep getting asked if I have children and I do not want a child either
I get that a lot, but it's because I am ugly. People are always surprised to find out that I'm married with two kids. All of the women from my High School are the ones like that. They all tell me they thought I'd be single forever and no kids.
Sadly most people think they can judge accurately without all the facts. The truth is there is not a set "maternal" look. If there were explain super models having babies. Moms (who shockingly are women) come in all shapes and sizes and from all walks of life. My kids are grown and I look better now than I did when I got pregnant some 22 years ago. I have been told I must have been a teenage mom but I didn't have my first child till I was 23 (frankly that doesn't bother me a lot if I am going to be honest -as I don't mind being told I look younger).
People who judge without knowing the facts have no common sense and worst of all have no filter on their mouths.
I get the same thing. I am 33 years old and I am always getting told I don't look like a mom and I still in my 20s. As flattering as it is I don't get the whole mom thing either. I dress with all of today's trends, highlight and style my hair for today's fashion, it's long not short and I am always in makeup. I have a younger sister who is 25 so I believe she keeps me feeling young. Plus my best friend is only 23 lol. But I really don't think moms have to look a certain way
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