I'm afraid I can't protect her. I'm not weak but I am thin. Extremely thin. So thin that when I lift (more like if) at the gym people look at me like I'm about to kill myself. Then they back off when they see everything's under control. Which is why I hate going to the gym. I'm a little above average strength but I don't look like it. I haven't been in many fights. The last time I fought was middle school. I'm not very confrontational but I don't ever cower from a fight I'm pretty good at talking people down. But here's the problem my girlfriend is gorgeous. And gets hit on quite a lot. I have yet to get into a situation where I have to fight but it's very possible. I know financially I'm good. In the looks department she thinks I'm sexy as hell. Connection wise I'm in the clear we're extremely close. And I act like I can protect her but really if a fight breaks out more than likely I'm getting my ass kicked. I can hold my own against most guys but if he's bigger than average I'm out. I would try and I definitely wouldn't quit but I'm a realistic dude. Before now none of this was a problem but recently she moved off campus to some sketchy apartments. Gunshots went off one night and now I'm terrified. My plan has always been to buy a house somewhere safe so that we'd never have to worry about this. First of all I'm scared that something may happen to her. Second I'm nervous that she'll dump me for someone more dominant and assertive. Are my fears reasonable? Do I need to beef up? She's always been very vocal about how much she likes my size but I feel like that may just be her trying to flatter me. I just don't know what to do.
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Take up a martial art. An external and an internal one, and see which one suits you better. I have barely any muscle mass at all, but I'll bet I can hit, twice, if not three times as hard as people who are significantly bigger than me. Not that that will necessarily help much in a fight, especially since usually, if people start on you, it's because they're confident they can win, ie much bigger than you, or a whole group against one or two.
So it's not the actual fighting I espouse. Any good martial art teaches you how not to fight. It's about having confidence in yourself, seeing the situation for what it is, to have the confidence to walk away. Because in reality, those situations are an interaction between two egos. It's because either party feels threatened, capable of being trampled over by another, like they have something to prove, totally unconscious, that they are willing to fight. People who are content in themselves don't fight, unless it's an absolute last resort. So you need to have that awareness to see your own insecurities, and not hide from them. That's why I like Kung Fu, with their underpinning philosophies.
Anyway, you should take basic steps for both parties safety. Have a chat with your girlfriend. Don't go into certain areas at certain times. Because, as I say, when it comes down to it, being a good fighter, or being strong, still won't help that much against a weapon or 4 to 1.0