Ever sense I was younger I've alwaysed had Self-confidence issues. It doesn't help when people always tell me how gorgeous my is mom. or they want to "do her". I'm in high school and people still tell me how pretty my mom is. I stand next to my friends and people will tell them their pretty and give me a weird look. Then when ever I straiten my hair (my hair is really curly) some people say I look better like that. I have glasses and when I take them off people tell me I look better like that. When I wear make-up ( I don't wear make-up unless it's a special acashion) people tell me I look better... It hurts somethimes because they think when I don't look like myself I look better... And then my mom comes and people stair at her and asks me if she is my sister and tells me how pretty she is... I just don't know how to make my self-confidence better... make thoughs things not bother me.
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It hurts me to see a young woman growing up and thinking her self worth should depend on what other people think about how she looks. I know why it happens, but it still makes me mad at the way we treat each other.
I had the same thing going on as "a 4 eyed fat nerd" growing up. Until I discovered I could stuff people into the dirt playing football, I had crap for a self image.
After a hair over 4 decades on this rock I've figured out one thing about how women look. It's actually a cliche, that beauty might be skin deep but ugly goes all the way to the bone.
It sounds like the opposite of what it actually means. Yeah. Perfect skin, figure, hair, features, etc don't mean squat. That stuff is all temporary, and most of it's beyond being changed anyway for most people. What matters is this:
Your actions, your character and your feelings. Those are the things that matter. They go all the way to the bone, and if they're good you're good. If they're ugly, that's the kind of ugly that matters.
Look at Santa Claus. Is he shown as handsome? Nope. Do people still love, even the image of him? Yep. Now why is that? Actions character and feelings. That's why.
My grandparents aren't pretty, but I miss the ones that are gone, and I love the one I still have.
Another shallow statement that says something deep is this.
No matter how good looking she is, there's some guy out there, who's sick of putting up with her crap.
In other words, how well your physical image matches your perceived ideal, it doesn't matter very much.
If you want to help your self confidence, DO awesome things. Help people you care about, and make their lives better. Gather useful skills and perfect them. In no time you'll know you can be a way better person than the shallow types that spend all their time just trying to smash themselves into a mold that almost nobody fits. Don't waste your time with it.1