I've been dating this guy for 8 months now, and everyone in my family likes him except my mom. He used to be into drugs and partying until we met, he stopped everything. He had some pictures on his instagram that my mom saw and she got very upset, but let it slide. I like him, but he doesn't take care of himself. I am someone that takes pride in how they look. As shallow as that sounds, I can;t look amazing and have my boyfriend dress in sweats and a dirty t-shirt from the night before. I have talked to him and bought him clothes, but he just gets mad and says he hates the clothes and to leave him alone. He weighs 350 pounds, I've been trying to go to the gym with him, but he says he doesn't like the gym and he hates working out that he's happy with the way he looks.. yet he always complains about it. I really wanted to help him out, but there's only so much you can do for a person. He doesn't have a job, I pay for everything, he goes to school at night so he wakes up at 2:30 and that irritates me SO much, because he can wake up early and go workout with me or get his day started earlier. I have talked to him about this.. It always ends in a fight. I am tired of having to put up with that, I am in medical school and I don't wanna work to pay someone else's expenses my whole life. I'm very irritated by this, I already broke up with him once and he said he was gonna change but not to nag him, this was 2 months ago and there still is no change. He made me feel AWEFUL for doing it.. I don't know what I should do..please help
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I've been on both sides of that fence and the one thing I've learned is that we can't change the person we're in a relationship with unless they want to change.
It's really that simple. If he doesn't want to change and if you are unhappy with him then it's time to end things.