For example, I'm really short. I'm about 5'3''/5'4''ish. I know I'm going to be physically undesirable to a huge percentage of the female population. Should people like myself and other people who are deemed physically undesirable still try to put in the effort to look attractive or as attractive as possible for that particular person?
Would it make you scoff or laugh at someone who is trying to look attractive if they are physically undesirable in the first place?
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I'm gonna be honest with you, looks can be either everything or almost everything, even taking into account your personality - just look, by now thousands of people have managed to see you and judge you by your looks, a handful have done it based on your personality. In a job interview, on a date, hell, even when you order your Big Mac the college kid serving you may be an asshole just because he thinks you ugly.
Time spent trying to look more attractive is never wasted. Even being... let's be honest, quite short, you can do whatever you're able to do to keep your body lean, your face clean and closely shaved (or you can grow a sexy stubble if you can trim that) and your manner proper (because let's be real, the way you act constitutes at least a third of what you look like). Of course every individual has different tastes, but they usually limit to cosmetic details - hairdo, hair color, body mass. In general though, clean, confident (yes, confidence is also the way you LOOK) and generally well-groomed people are attractive to the general population. A beautifully polished piece of quartz looks a lot more attractive than a diamond in the rough, even though the latter has more potential.
I'm not gonna bullshit you with this "ONLY personality matters" nonsense. Personality's just a part of it all. I agree, though, that you attract people (not only romantically) with looks, but you keep them there with your brains. Don't forget that.0