Should I dress up around my boyfriend all the time? {guys only}

My boyfriend comes over almost everyday,and I don't like to get all dressed up I just like to stay in my pajamas with my hair up.But I don't know if he would prefer me to dress up or just in my pajamas.I want to please him and not give him the idea that I'm letting myself go or lazy..

So guys would you prefer a girl to dress up

or dress down?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • I get sad seeing women "dress up" as I usually find they are more attractive when they are chillin at home as you said pjs and all.

    Don't worry about it too much. It isn't clear how long you have been with him. If just briefly then I say dress as if you were going to go outside (to shop, movies, or the dentist just outside clothes) but not necessarily out on a date. It also helps since he won't have to wait for you to get ready if you guys want to run down to Mcd's or something. If you have known him for a while then he should be cool with you however you dress in your home.

    As long as you guys do go out sometimes where you can put on your full uniform. He will notice your flexibility and also your willingness to show your true self to him regardless of situation.

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What Guys Said 6

  • Every man likes to see his girl, or any girl really, dressed up. It's not the dressing up itself, so to speak, but more of the fact that they were concerned about how they looked and clearly put forth a great deal of effort. So unless you're pajamas are lacy thongs or boyshorts then I'd say you're likely to get more of a rise out of him with the dress clothes (pun intended).

    At the same time it's worth noting that most of us guys realize that most girls aren't going to dress up just to sit around the house. If he bitched about you always wearing pajamas then that's the argument you'd likely put forth. Hence women dressing up to go out or go to work, but not for a weekend on the couch and some chick flicks. We understand that, so you should really clarify your goal: to turn your guy on or simply to please him.

    The reality is that if you're trying to turn your guy on then there are simpler ways of doing it, specifically the aforementioned thong or boyshorts. If it's a more regular dress type deal then he should probably be taking you out more, thereby giving both of you a reason for you to upgrade from the pajamas.

    Let's be honest, if he's a good boyfriend he'll probably end up with you in your pj's much more frequently than you dressed up, but occasionally it's nice for a girl to dress up for us... just not all the time.

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  • personally , there's nothing sexier than a female in pajamas :) . dressing up is for when you 2 are going out. the last time I had a thing for a girl, she would invite me over occasionally and most of the time she would be in the pajama pants, I loved that . I don't think she was trying to give me the wrong idea. she and I weren't together, just friends but I was always attracted to her. part of me thinks she knew how much I liked it when she wore them and it made her feel good about herself. but who knows

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  • I think you are better off being your true self. There are times to dress up, and times to be casual. Don't be afraid to let him know how you really are, because if things are going to go anywhere he will find out eventually, unless you think you can keep up the charade indefinitely.

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    • To be more thorough, we all have a lot of different sides of ourselves that we reveal under different circumstances. Don't worry about letting him see the more complete version of yourself.

  • if he comes every day you don't have to dress up. If its a special date, or an event, then you should definitely dress up. If he comes over every day to talk, or to help you with something then its no bigger you don't need to dress up. Hope this helps.

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  • Well, really depends on the day. Like if he doesn't want to just lazy around the house I'm sure he wants you dressed up, lol. Also maybe you could surprise him, like randomly dress up somedays, I'm sure he'd enjoy it =)

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  • no if he really loves you he's there for the inside who cares about the outside

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What Girls Said 1

  • Girlfriend,you've got to pick it up a notch.One girl to another,you don't have to put on an evening gown every day,but some really pretty but casual wear from some nice stores will do a lot for you ,him and your relationship.Fix up your hair,apply some tasteful make-up,and go for some nice jeans,slacks or a couple of easy denim skirts is all it would take.Throw in some nice shoes,too.You're way too young to become frumpy.Put yourself in his place,what if you saw him every day and he never brushed his hair or changed his clothes and made no effort to spruce himself up,for your arrival,you'd begin to think that your coming over was no big deal,or he didn't think that you were worth the effort.Besides,if you guys are serious and making long term plans,and you're that casual now,what's it going to be like 5,10,15 years from now?

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