Girls, do you get intimidated by guys who dress nicer than you?

[Anonymous]

Ladies, would you be more inclined to show interest to a cute stranger if he was dressed similar to you? What if he were dressed up more than you? Would you feel a bit intimidated? Like he's too good for me. I'm asking because I always try to look my best in $200 jeans, nice button-up shirts, $140 nikes, etc. But the girls here are usually in sweats and a hoodie, and I'm wondering if I am making them feel a bit insecure and less open to me because I'm dressed a lot nicer. What do you suggest I do to catch a girl's interest?

[nel15]

This may be a cultural thing but personally, I love men who dress nicely. I am European (Swiss & French living in Geneva, Switzerland) and I wouldn't even consider dating a man who didn't care about his appearance. Would you be attracted to a girl in ripped jeans and a tattered t-shirt? Probably not.

Being well dressed is not an indication of being conceited. That's the thing that I don't like about the states. You all think that dressing in sweat pants and a hoodie is part of you expressing how comfortable you are with yourself. For men, you are being 'manly.' That is not how we see it in Europe. If you are comfortable with yourself, you look good all the time. You dress up for yourself, not for anyone else.

There's a cashier at the grocery store here in Switzerland. She wears stilettos every day. Her hair is perfect. Her make up is perfect. And when she walks, she looks like she's on a Chanel runway in the middle of Fashion Week, not on her way to clean up the spill in aisle 5. That's not a woman dressing for other people. If you dress for other people, then you will dress according to the occasion. I'm going to a bar, I want people to notice me, so I'll look nice. I'm going to the grocery store, I want to pick up Ben and Jerrys without anyone noticing me, so I wear uggs and the class-act sweatpants with 'hot stuff'' printed across my butt.

But take a woman who looks good even if she is taking out the garbage. That's a woman who looks good for herself, not for anyone else.

Rule: Just be well dressed. It's a sign of respect for yourself and a sign of respect for the unfortunate souls who have to look at you. People are going to care whether or not you want them to. So they might as well care because you look good.

I think it's great that you care about what you look like. I wouldn't tone it down to get those girls' attention. One day, some model dressed in Chanel and Dolce will notice and appreciate it. Just like you boys like to see girls dressed up and looking pretty, we like to see our men clean and handsome even if he's just going to throw out the garbage. ;)

[helms_girl]

I have yet to find a guy who dresses better than me.

And if he does, I'm sorry...but he probably wouldn't be dating me for too long.

If the guy is supposed to "wear the pants" in a relationship, I expect to wear the prettiest everything else.

It's nice if the guy has some really nice things and takes care of himself...but if he makes it a priority to not wear a t shirt unless it's made of 100% Egyptian cotton...we've got a problem.

But I understand your dilemma. Anyone who knows me knows I have a HUGE problem with slobby girls. A girl does not need to spend a lot of money to look nice. So even if your stuff is more expensive than hers, that is still no excuse for her not to look nice standing beside you.

Maybe a little intimidation will get the girl to smarten up?

[ammirare]

I am! It makes me feel sort of awkward. As far as gender stereotypes go, girls are "supposed" to be more stylish and put-together, putting more care into their fashion selections. So, it does make me feel a little inadequate if a guy is overshadowing my look--and, to be honest, it makes me concerned about what this guy actually values: his "look" and flaunting how he spends his money? Maybe--and that thought does cross my mind. Conspicuous consumerism is a pretty big turn-off for me.

One thing I'd actually recommend to you, though, and this doesn't entirely relate... but... lose the nikes with jeans. To me that's just a fashion faux-pas adults should avoid, unless you are, say, going to the zoo, hiking, or playing games outdoors with small children.

[Numbaonenewb]

I agree. You can look nice without spending a fortune. Plenty of times I've seen where these guys with their name brand suits completely matched 3 piece that costed over $500 doesn't look as good as my off brand mismatched suit that I pieced together for less than $100. Not my opinion of course but what others tell me.

For the women that insist that their man or a man that they date dress beneath them a couple of notches, all I hear is either insecurity or some stereotype about how they are egotistic arrogant what have you.

Can the same be said about women who put on something other than sweats but not these $600 outfits? Because the price tags aren't attached to the clothing, how do you know how much they spent?

90% of my clothes are recycled clothing yet everywhere I go, people are turning their heads, taking photos of me, recording videos, stopping right in the middle of the street with traffic backing up to stare.

They're always staring, all the time. In the pacific northwest where casual has become rampant in men, where full on untrimmed beards are the norm, it's not often you find a well dressed man so it stands out even more. My day job? I'm an auto mechanic. I'm stained in oil and grease head to toe. When I go out? It turns heads.

Its actually pretty fun. I've been in the local newspaper and on NBC sports commercial played during our NBA teams live casting just for dressing nice.

[noregret11]

I get where you are coming from man. I dress the same way, and in high school, it sometimes ooks like you are trying too hard I guess. Also, I wear dress casuall sometimes, nice jeans, sneakers, a tee, and a black denim blazer. I think it looks really sharp, but I the girl I'm after always thinks its gay that I dress nice. I don't dress gay, I just dress up.

I would say in response to you, that yes, depending on the girl, it will hurt your chances. A girl that wears sweats a lot will probably be intimidated by your percieved success. Girls who dress up like you do though will like the way you dress. So if you are after the sweat pants girls, try maybe cutting the button ups out of your wardrobe. The nice jeans and sneakers are always ok though.

My biggest tip when trying to look sharp but not intimidating. Dress the way everyone else does. then add one thing every day that maybe makes you look a little dressier, or unique. (a nice watch, a nice jacket, something they wouldn't expect)

[sweetem16]

Well, for me a sharp-dressed man is more attractive than any old guy in a hoodie or torn jeans. It says he takes care of himself and could take care of me too, if I needed it.

Dressing nice, probably insures girls' interest and you probably have quite a bit of attention from girls from hoodies to designer dresses.

I wouldn't feel intimidated, I would feel curious about the clothes, the guy and the combo.

If you want to gain more interest, then use your style and your clothing to project an image of confidence (that you already seem to possess) then approach girls with confidence.

[TaurusFemmeFatale]

I do not get initimidated by guys who dress nicer than me. I strongly ENCOURAGE it. Pardon my french, but it sounds like you're living in an area with local 'hoodrats.' Maybe they are intimidated by YOU! Take their rejection as a blessing in disguise. Most women who are careless about their looks often feel pressured to dress up so that they would not be outdone by their boyfriends. This is usually a sign of insecurity. Some women feel the less time he takes on his appearance, then the greater chance he has of NOT looking elsewhere if she decided to let her OWN physical appearance got to the DOGS!

PS...Continue to look sharp!

[smilezz]

I'm not going to lie, I notice when guys are wearing expensive shoes and based on that I can tell you how much the rest of his clothes cost (this of course is always just a guess but it usually holds true). Does it intimidate me? - No. What it does is let me know that this guy has a taste for expensive things, and holds himself in high regard. That might make me think that he has an ego issue.

Of course this is just a first thought and I would have to talk to him to actually get an accurate first impression... Maybe the problem is that since you dress nice, you don't notice that you're kinda acting snobby around girls in hoodies and sweatpants?

[arsenal25]

not really I don't think girls even notice and say o my that shirt is 200$, no price tag on it lol I would just say he looks nice I like that. But not ALL the time I have met guys that do that, its like take a break please lol wear like sporty stuff once in a while, or just simple jeans and a white T ( not baggy!) its hot. Sweats and hoodies are expensive too depending on a brand, I wear them but my whole outfit would b pretty expensiveeee, my sweats are 160, hoodie is 140.sooo don't think just b.c. its certain clothing it is cheap. Girls do look how guys dress, especially if you are meeting the first time I look how they can dress

[-StillWater-]

Yeah...NO. When I see a guy dressed like that...it makes me think (if not KNOW) that he's showing off and trying to accentuate how he's better than the person that perhaps can't afford what he can.

It just 'tells' me that he values people as he values himself - Through how much money they have- which, honestly, makes me sick...

And there's no way I'd ever go out with a guy like that..I know a few guys like that and all of my theories are 100% confirmed.

My suggestion is, try wearing something that isn't screaming how much money you might have... TRY to be yourself (by making this suggestion I'm hoping you're a nice person...).

Hope I helped

:)

[tyrantfuryre]

Expensive and nice don't always go hand in hand. I've spent $4 on a t-shirt that out lasted a $25 t-shirt by far. I bought Timberland replica boots for $60, lasted 2 1/2 years, bought a pair of Timberlands after that which looked exactly the same as the replicas for $165, they fell apart after just over a year and then I bought yet another pair of Timberlands for $125, on sale for $85. Which also look exactly the same except for the bottoms have different tread. I've had them for just about a year and they're barely starting to fall apart. Hmm...

[Anonymous]

I really don't base my interest in a man on what he wears. Honestly, I could care less so long as he's dressed appropriately to the occasion. I'm a lot more interested in what he reads, how he spends his time, and the kindness of his heart. I might appreciate it if a man looks nice, but honestly, if I knew he spent that kind of money on jeans and shoes, I'd be turned off. It's not that it's intimidating, it just seems shallow and a poor use of money. (Sorry.) I'd focus more on whether you are a gentleman and can make a girl laugh. Both will get you more dates than anything you wear.

[Serenading_by_night]

Another romantic, just like me. :)

[H0000]

i can't answer ur question since I haven't met any guy who dress like that..well actually..even if they do wear a $200 jeans..i wouldn't know unless they tell me..lol

but if it was my bf,i guess I'll make myself match him,have to .

so if he dresses way too better than me,i will feel bad for myself.

:P maybe we are both conceited.. haha

[tropicalpanda03]

Stranger? I don't mind at all since the way they dress tell me what kind of person that they have good sense of fashion

But if it was my boyfriend that dress like that then he better go find someone else to be with becuase there's no way on earth I am going to date a guy who care so much about his look. It just proves that he is way too conceited. IRRITATED would be a more appropriate word.

[blufrenzy93]

nope.

if anything that attracts me more.

it means to mean that your well kept and know how to handle yourself

you shouldn't have to change your style to catch a girl's eye

because there are others like myself that would love the way you present yourself in public :]

[Serenading_by_night]

I find it incredibly attractive when men dress nice. Someone once told me dress for the type of attention you're wanting to get. Granted, women aren't going to know the price of your clothing unless they follow the magazines like an addict. Careful though, you might catch a girl who is high maintenance and financially draining.

[emnicole]

I think it depends on the girl...some girls like it when their guy dresses nicely, and others just want very casual, but I think with a lot of people, they go for someone who dresses similar to them. With me and my bf, we dress fairly casual, but its usual something a little nicer, unless were gonna do something messy like fix his car or go hiking

[misssophia5]

the thing about nice clothes is the price tag usually can come off...nobody will know your clothes are worth that much. if I saw a guy that is well dressed, I'd be impressed, honestly. but then again, I'm not one of those girls that only wears sweats and tshirts. I NEVER wear sweats. as long as you're not going around talking about your $200 jeans, people will just know you care about your appearance.

[kaylaaxbabiee]

I'm sort of a girly girl and tend to look for a more maculine guy to balance me out, so when I see a guy who dresses as good or nicer than me, I see him more as competition and less as a date-able guy; also, girls want to feel pretty in what they wear & you out-dressing them may cause a girl to feel insecure or below you. For the most part, if a dude's closet is filled with better clothes than mine, I don't want to date him.

[Christine1988]

Nobody intimidates me no matter what the case. I love a guy who can look good and a guy who can love me when I'm dressed up real nice or when I'm dressed down In the end clothes are just clothes. because how you dress and stuff shouldnt matter you know it should still all be about personality and attraction and all that =]

[dudegutarman]

Money isn't an issue. You say jeans & nikes. That's expensive, not nice. Nice is more like button-ups, loafers, boots, slacks. that kind of thing. I tend to wear tshirts & jeans myself, but price isn't important. The most important thing is ehat you think of yourself. Wear whatever makes you feel confident. The clothes aren't what she notices. She notices your confidence. Good clothes give you confindence.

[Anonymous]

hmmn I never thought about this. My initial thought about this though is that no, it wouldn't matter to me. The more goodlooking the better! =)

however it might get to me later on, if lets say, we do exchange numbers and get talking, become friends and as we flirt, he pinpoints how I'm not dressed enough. Or if he is full of it that he spends way more money on clothing than I do. Then forget being intimidated, id just be turned off. Cockyness, self-obsession, and ego are extremely unattractive.

[sef0181]

I wouldn't be interested in a man who shows that much interest in fashion. But I am a small-town redneck, and I like my men in flannel shirts and jeans

[KhloeMaddison]

id rather a guy dress in like some 100 dollar jeans, a hoodie and some boots or something. I like my men to look like men, I'm definatley not into the metro guys who take care of themselves a bunch.

[natalieee_hk]

Agree. a man should look like.. mmm.. a man.

[2innocentq]

not really.i like guys who dresses nice better,not neccessarily name brand clothes or expensive,just nicer.but also don't overdo it cus sometimes it would make the guy look girly.