Guys, before you think it’s the money or what you drive is what women will notice, think again. Most women continue to insist that these things don’t matter, to the disbelief of most men. Men everywhere who don’t have a lot of money to spend or even have anything to drive—even those without the hard-body good looks—can still find a woman, and here’s why: Know your defining trait.
All too often, especially on GaG, I see the same questions pop up addressing what the problem might be for an assuming nice guy who looks great and has a lot to offer a woman. (What that offering can be is anything from an above-average penis size to an above-average bank account.) So while these guys are scratching their heads, ready to place blame on the women for not finding these things attractive, we women have only scratched the surface with admitting to you our “preferences” but what we really want is character—and the rest will fall in to place.
Here are some examples of what makes a man unique and interesting to women that have nothing to do with looks or money. (And yes, I know the celebrities pictured certainly have made money now, they also started someplace that had nothing to do with making it big and still managed to find women even before they were somebodies.)
The Comedian
This guy is so quick with his words and can crack everyone up. People flock to him because he always says the right thing and makes others so happy knowing they’re in for a lot of fun when he’s around. Men who are naturally funny let a woman know that no matter how stressed her life is, he will always make her smile, if not peeing her pants laughing. How can a woman not enjoy a guy who will be this entertaining?
The Musician
This is a man who is often a lone wolf and has spent a lot of time perfecting his craft on his own without interruption in order to be good at what he plays. It shows that he’s not afraid to be alone and do what makes him happy. His talent is also sexy and a conversation starter with most people. He garners attention, and women love knowing the man they are with are intriguing to others.
The Intellect
These are the ones who read and are up for conversation on any topic. They know both sides to so many stories and feed off of others to collect information. They are who people turn to when they need advice or to have things simplified when they need a crash course in things like politics or current events. Women feel secure with a man who is brilliant, knowing that in the end, he’ll have things figured out.
The Handyman
Men who own an impressive tool box and can make or fix just about anything shows that they are domestic problem solvers. They can easily install your ceiling fan or unclog your bathroom sink without having to read directions. They’ve invested time in taking a course on a trade, which tells a woman that he respects the nest she builds and wants to make sure it’s secure enough for her.
The Psychic
Being in-tune with feelings is biologically a feminine trait, but a man who possesses the ability to probe further and get to the core of someone’s soul is mysterious. These are men who may follow religion, alternative paths, practice ‘magick’, and are interested in The Unknown. They have done a lot of reading and observing to learn more about people, especially those who interest him. Women feel as though he truly understands our feelings—therefore the classic “silent treatment” won’t work as he’ll already know what’s bothering us and want to talk about it.
The Champion
These are men who want to be heroes, and either have a profession that has them helping people (police work, fire-fighters, military, ambulance attendant, etc.), they are philanthropists, or they do volunteer work that helps others (human rights, treatment centre volunteers, kids’ clubs, animal shelters). Women immediately pick up on their heroic trait and feel a sense of security and sensitivity that a man goes out of this way to help others—thinking they will go above and beyond for her most of all.
The Fox
These are your poker players, pool players, cigar aficionados, wine connoisseurs, men who take on hobbies and games and make them a part of their lives to be known more for what they love to do. Their hobbies make them sexy, and they get so involved and in-the-know with what they love that it’s almost as if they choose that over a relationship with a woman. Women pick this up and feel the need to want to break down the barrier between the man and his hobby to make her his Number One.
The Protector
Simply put, these men only need to make their presence known and there is a hush all around them. They don’t go out of their way to cause trouble, mainly it’s their size and appearance that keeps trouble away. They are not your typical trouble-making assholes. These guys are the ones that women feel safe to walk with at night because they truly think they can take on the world with one hand tied behind their back. Knowing that her man can make her feel physically safe is irresistible.
I know there are many other types of defining traits that women can find appealing, but listen to a woman next time she talks about someone she once dated. Usually she'll refer to him as "the sax player", or "the magician", or "race car driver". These are things she initially found interesting and appealing that set him apart from all other men, and that--along with good old fashioned chemistry, is what will attract us to the men we want.
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