"No"
*ignore
"Hahahah , fuck off"
"You're pretty and all but I can't right now"
"Uh... I'm sorry , you're really cute but ...thank you for asking"
"Uh.... sorry , I'm not really looking for anything but you seem nice"
Self-explanatory.
When women say NO men get MAD so maybe we are tired of being super polite because we are scared? I was polite when rejecting a guy and I still got hit! What about the woman who was shot and killed by a man after refusing to give him her number? What about the young girl who was stabbed and killed in her school stairway for refusing to go to prom with a boy? Men get harsh words sometimes but women are being KILLED just for saying no to a man. Because men are so entitled they think they deserve any woman they want and when they don't get what the want they get violent. I have personally been punched for politely refusing to go this this guy's house to "watch movies and cuddle and kiss". The principal had to pull him off because he was so angry. Literally all I said was "No thanks I have a boyfriend, you know I have a boyfriend" and he started hitting me.
The first two women were completely rude, and have no integrity whatsoever. The third one however was at least somewhat interested, and rejected him due to not getting to know her. If he had simply asked for her name first, and maybe asked an ice-breaker question, then she probably would have given him her number. When you approach a woman like that, it comes off as "He only wants me for my physical attractiveness, not for me". Regardless though, they were all rude in the way that they rejected him. They could have had a lot more chivalrousness than they did.
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u What is the connection between a video about rejection and "Chivalry Is Dead!"?
The problem I have with this video is that A) they only approached conventionally attractive women. These women probably do get hit on more than the average woman and B) the guy was also asking for their number.
He started off by saying "Hey, I thought you were really cute"... The woman on the other hand, she was saying Hi and went to shake their hand. That seems like a more polite approach.
A random guy just asking for my number won't get it most likely. You have to be careful who you give your number to. I don't withhold my number because I'm a big meanie, I withhold it because I don't want to get stalked. Seriously though. Some women have posted links of scary things that have happened when a woman rejects a guy. Guys can be scary! Not all guys of course, but women always have to be afraid because they never know what could happen.
I was online dating once, and I mistakenly gave this guy my number. He then proceeded to keep texting me creepy stuff. Even after I told him I was not interested. I gave him a chance, I was talking to him and found that we just weren't compatible. And he was making me very uncomfortable (ie. Wanting me to come over to his house right away alone, and telling me that we should be boyfriend and girlfriend (after an hour of talking to each other, we hadn't even met in person yet :S)). So I told him politely that Sorry, I wasn't interestd and sorry. He refused to take no for an answer and for the next year and a half (yes, year and a half!!!) he proceeded to keep texting me. The texts got angrier and angrier and I never responded to any of them :(
He kept texting stuff like "What would we be doing right now if we were together?" "What do you think it would be like if we were girlfriend and bf?", etc...
So women have to worry about that kind of stuff. They have to worry about getting stabbed, about being assaulted, about being raped all the time!
And also, no one owes you a friendly response. Maybe these people were busy or trying to get home or saw the camera and it scared them? People do stupid things now a days, pull pranks and do things to scare people. These women were probably just trying to protect themselves.
Why do women have to justify not wanting to talk to someone when it could potentially be a scary situation? I know it's hard for some guys to understand, especially since they don't always experience this type of stuff. But try to think abouut it from a woman's perspective. Some random dude asking for your number.
Someone queue the violin! It's so funny how so many males just don't get it & won't accept the fact, Women Don't Owe You Shit! Stop approaching random chicks you don't know shit about & you're feelings won't get hurt. You are not entitled to us, our number, or a date.
@Minxxie ~ gave real accounts, Women Die by Fuckboys who can't take no for an answer!
Stop trying to point fingers at women & grow some balls, have these discussions with your male friends. Call each other out on your over-sexualized behavior, aggressiveness, & physical violence.
At least Aziz Ansari gets it:
Explains the majority of guys who's butthurt over rejection:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22013-why-nice-guys-girls-are-not-really-nice
A guy who understands the point of chivalry:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a21871-chivalry-why-men-should-hold-onto-it-not-because-of-norms-made-by
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Chump :)
In addition to the fact that men can be creepy and aggressive as others have mentioned, it's also about supply and demand. If a woman has already been approached by 5 guys and you're number 6, of course she's going to be irritated.
I felt the same way last year when I put out my resume. I got a new job and still months and months later recruiters still keep calling me. Some days I was getting 5 or 6 calls from guys with foreign accents I could barely understand wanting to know if I was interested in jobs paying half of what I'm making now. Many of them don't take no for an answer and keep calling back. Extremely irritating. I assume women feel the same way about guys when they get asked out a lot.
When you approach women you have to learn body language and attraction signals. Eye contact is a good one. If she's breaking eye contact almost immediately and looking away then she doesn't want to talk to you. If she maintains eye contact for a few seconds or longer, smiles, looks down, that's a much more probable chance she finds you attractive and wouldn't mind talking to you.
While many of those women were rude, it's also rude to approach random women who are clearly headed somewhere and didn't give you and open body language signals. When approaching women you should focus on talking to women who are not walking anywhere in a hurry, have open body language, and do not immediately look away when you make eye contact.
This is a bit of an unfair comparison.
The reason for this is because girls' standards are WAY, WAY higher on average. This means guys will take any chance they can get. Why do you think most girls sit back and wait to be asked out? Because they can.
It's disgusting I know, but it's not because women are inherently mean or anything. They just have incredibly high standards.
I do agree that it's time to change this though. No doubt that encouraging more women to make the first move would break this sexist stereotype. So that's what I do.
soooo you're expecting to be paid back for acting like a gentlemen (which is something you should have been doing in the first place) by getting a date hmm seems legit.
i would have rejected a guy who asked me for my number while i was out and about, far as i am concerned they could be an axe murderer
I can't deny that tbh. But thing is, girls get catcalled all the time in the streets unlike guys, and it's getting super annoying and tiresome for us. So, you can't really blame us for not being "nice" most of the time since you're the reason why girls think you can be freaks at times.
You guys have no idea how many times us girls had thoughts in our minds like "oh god, stay calm, I hope that creepy dude doesn't kidnap me"/ "oh shit, they're staring. Please don't rape me" while walking alone esp at night..
So, sorrynotsorry..
lmao @ the responses.
"poor poor women get lavished all day and they're sick of it"
For pete's sakes, women. There's nothing wrong with admitting that women feel emboldened enough to be rude to unwanted suitors. It's not a secret and you're not fooling anybody by denying it or rationalizing it. Just own up to it and move on. You're not fooling men, just each other (and maybe getting 17 y/o clueless white knights to mouth the words). It was just a funny video showing what everyone knows!!! Get a sense of humor!
*BIG FACEPALM*
Not justifying the behaviour but for every guy who comes across nice in this situation, then there is a guy who doesn't. My girlfriend called me once crying saying this guy was asking for her number, but he got quite aggressive and intimidated her. Luckily this was in a busy setting so onlookers got involved. You really think my girl is now going to stop and be nice to ANY guy who approaches her in the future... Now she just ignores and keeps it moving. I'm sure there are girls who have been in this position and have adopted a similar approach.
The girl who laughed and said fuck off is completely out of order, needs a drink thrown in her face for that.
You're severely overestimating how kind guys are when rejecting women they don't want. Not having asked a guy out yourself you would have no way of knowing.
You may have been rudely rejected by women what makes you think women have not been rudely rejected by men? By of a video?
I don't think it's actually an accurate representation. If they had tested more girls, I'm sure there would be some that are nice. I've never done any of those replies the girls gave so it's not fair to say that's how all girls reject.
How about saying ''That's how some rude people reject''.
One word for ya:
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SO sick of the misuse of the word "chivalry". It never had anything to do with the treatment of women.
Seriously, people need to research the origins of the word.
I feel like this video should be about how much more awesome chicks are at approaching!
I mean Andrea may have been politely rejected but that girl has GAME!
Watch her all smiling and saying hey, waits for the dude to actually stop and talk to her, introduces herself and asks his name.
Don't see her walking up to a guy who is clearly in a rush going somewhere and just saying Hey i know this is random (i don't even care to know your name) but you're cute, can i get digits?
1st girl he didn't even ask out! That's not being rejected, that's called having shit to do and not stopping to talk to strangers on the street. I mean how does someone watch this and not notice that Andrea is totally schooling you on how to ask someone out! That dude seems like he's not even invested, she's smiling, she's shaking their hands... i mean come the fuck on. Not even comparable!
All these women in this video are very rude. End of story. Those women were in the wrong not the man. Now I am not saying women have to give guys their number but to be strait out rude like that is not acceptable. If the guy had not taken no for an answer and was hassling her then I could understand it but for that to be the first thing for her to say well only those women in that video are at fault.
Guys don't get hit on all the time like attractive girls do though. So if a nice guy approaches you you're so used to creepy, too forward guys that you immediately go on the defense and you're like, "leave me alone!" when the dude's probably harmless.
Don't get me wrong though, that was an eye opener how rude we are in comparison to guys with rejection. I would never say something like that to a nice looking guy but if he looked creepy or was too forward/sexual then I'd definitely tell him to go away.
I don't really blame the women. They probably get asked out ALL the time and are reasonably fed up of it and it's not every day that guys get asked out.
This "experiment" isn't really accurate anyway
I find it interesting that instead of discussion, most of the responses from the women are mainly defending the women in the video.
Bias aside, it's an interesting topic, so why not discuss instead of taking the defensive.
Going to avoid the backlash by goin Anonymous. XD
What I think:
1. The guy doing the experiment looks way less attractive than the girl doing the experiment.
2. He approached way hotter girls than the girl did. The guys she approached in the experiment are just meh except for 1.
3. If he approached girls who get approached as often as the guys, the reactions could be more polite.
4. Even hot people who aren't rude from the beginning, slowly turn rude, because they have to turn down a lot of people everyday. Imagine having to walk 20 mins to get somewhere and get stopped every 5 mins to nicely turn down a stranger for 3 mins. That's 12 extra minutes of the day that you don't get back and you didn't exactly make 4 new great friends.
I suspect there was some editing involved here, weeding out the responses. I think most women are more polite, and there may well have been some rude responses from men.
I have never done this to any woman, so I don't have a dog in this show. That being said, I think a simple, "No thank you" would suffice. The woman doesn't need to slow down. She doesn't need to disregard her safety.
For those who say you're not entitled to her number, I completely agree. You're not entitled to a friendly response. I completely agree. However, I encourage politeness, and friendly and politeness aren't the same. I think the "fuck off" response was uncalled for. The other responses I'm OK with (though I would have encouraged anyone, male or female, to put say "No thank you" instead of "no."
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