I’m writing this while high, so get high also and enjoy. What the fuck happened to all the charm? It wasn’t always this way, at one point charm was the norm. Today only a few men possess this very important trait, Russel Brand and George Clooney are a perfect example of a great charmer.
As a charmer you get what you want because who you are and how you make everyone else feel.
so, what the fuck is charm? Guess.
Only kidding, charm is when someone you admire makes you feel significant. key phrase in that sentence is “someone you admire”. You NEED to be seen as high status if you want to be found as charming, I could go on for milliseconds after milliseconds about how to be higher status but that’s for another take. But you CANNOT be charming if someone thinks they are better than you, it just will not work.
Next I’m going to tell you how to be charming, If you decide to make the smart decision and incorporate this into your life, you will see a difference. Charm is like any other muscle and will get stronger and stronger the more you use.
Unapologetically free
This is being able to speak freely across all statuspheres(I fucking love that word), 95% of us humans will hold back when we think someone is equal or higher status than us. Think back to high school, I bet you would change the way you talked to someone depending on wether they’re “popular” or not, it’s very likely you do the same thing today.
How do I talk unapologetically free?
Be aware of when it’s happening, this first step is finally being aware that this occurs. When it does happen you need to ask yourself a few questions, it’s best to write these down so it’s planted in the back of your mind. Ask yourself “why did I hold back? Will I Do it next time?”.
I can guarantee you won’t hold back next time.
Not to long ago I was hanging out with two girls and one guy, we are all talking and he says the douchest thing I think I’ve ever heard. He said, “So ladies, It would be cool if you gave me a wicked blowjob”. He may have spoken freely but you need to be aware of your audiences emotions. Charmers are emotional directors, and always know how their audience feels.
Present
I’m not a fan of giving out a rating, but lets say someone is a 6 and some is a 10. If the 10 is giving 50% of his attention to you, and the 6 is giving 100% of his attention the 6 is now worth more. That’s why presence is so important.
Being present is what you experience when you are completely at peace of the moment, being present allows you to be aware of the emotions of others. Presence doesn't take practice you can switch it on at anytime. What makes it easy is daily meditation.
Light and Playful
One of the most important principles of charm. Even when the content is serious, the vibe is not. The light and playful vibe is relaxed and content that always remembers “ nothing really matters”, we all are going to die one day, life is just a game and there's no reason to take it so seriously, just have fun and let go!
side tip: Changing a woman mind isn't as hard as you may think, but 95% of men will fail, the key is to change her mood. Never try and use logic to win an argument or get her to do something, woman are emotional creatures, logic is the enemy! the way you change her mood is by....agreeing with what she says(steal her frame) and joke around, for example.
Her: I really don’t want to go out tonight, Lets just stay in and watch a movie.
You: Yeah lets not go out, were only 22 years old in one of the greatest cities imaginable, we’re way to old to be going out and partying, I think my back is starting to give out, time to write my will!
her: hahaha, okay I’ll get ready.
Interested yet indifferent
Being interested yet indifferent is making someone feel like they’re the only person in the whole world, but they never fully have you. Indifference is sub communicated, just lean back and relax. Indifference is when you don’t care about there attention, if it’s gone it will not effect your mood. Indifference leaves you to be free and tease when you want!
That about wraps in all up, if you apply these principles you will finally notice a change, you’ll start getting what you want, when you want it, just remember to thank me in the back up your mind when it happens
Peace.
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can you give example of interested yet indifferent? i dont quite get it
Going into to conversation without trying to gain anything, your just talking to have fun. You can walk away at any moment. Your not attached to the outcome, but your still listening to what's being said and making the other person feel significant.
woah okay imma try that! Thanks mate!
Interesting Take.