Okay n00bs, I shall do my best in explaining all the wisdom I have learned from all the guys I approached. Yes, I'm a pc/video gamer but not only do I have mad skillz in gaming (unless it's certain ones :P). I have mad skillz when it comes to approaching dudes I want to get to know. My success rate is at 100% which is why I'll explain how I did that.
Size up your target!
Once you have spotted the person you want to get to know and might start a relationship with in the future. You need to be able to tell what chance do you have at succeeding with them. Never randomly walk up to the person because you won't have enough info to go on. First: You analyze/observe what kind of person they might be. Second: Think about the environment you're both in and if it's a place that tells you if y'all have something in common. Third: Look how they dress because that will also tell you if you might succeed. Fourth: In this case looks matter more. The reason why they matter more is because you haven't talked to them yet. So you can't go by their personality just yet, and looks can tell a lot about how things will work out.
Always go with your gut feeling
The second you become interested in talking to them, start planning on your approach (refer too size up your target). This part is where I know a lot of people tend to talk themselves out of making an attempt which is how you screw yourself over. If I had changed my mind and chickened out when I first talked to my boyfriend. We would never have gotten together and I wouldn't be in the greatest relationship I have ever been in for over 4 years now.
Never think!
Once you have done all the stuff I listed above, you have now advanced to the next stage. Walking up to them and talking! Though when you start to think, that can turn into your worse enemy. Most people will start to freak out, have a mini panic attack, and short circuit the second they can say hi. Try as hard as you can to turn your brain off as much as possible and say only what first comes to mind and natural. The key is to go with the flow and don't stop to think. AT ALL, other wise you end up like this picture below.
Breaking the ice!
Now that you have stopped thinking, it's time to say hi and start a conversation! I know what y'all are thinking and panicking about.
How do I even start a conversation?
I don't know what subject to talk about!
I just don't know damn it!
PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER AND STOP THINKING!
Remember the, no thinking rule I had just finished talking about! Then remember back to, "size up your target," since doing that will help you know what to start the conversation about. Either by something they're wearing, looking at, the place y'all are in, etc. If someone is reading a book, polity get their attention and ask them about it. Show your interest in the book and all they explain about it. Build the whole conversation about it and then see if you can branch off more conversations from that. If they're wearing something cool but different talk about that.
The key to all of this is to show pure and innocent curiosity about the topic you start with. Like a little kid innocent type curiosity but don't act like a little kid yourself. Even if you end up going with, "Hi, I'm sorry if i'm interrupting anything. It's just that I honestly want to get to know you since you seem like a very interesting person." Say that in a very sweet and innocent curious way so you don't come off as creepy. If they say no then smile and say alright and walk away. Who knows it might make the person stop you and actually talk more to you. So what have we learned? INNOCENT CURIOSITY IS KEY!
Look them in the eyes
I don't mean like this...
I mean like normal eye contact that you do with family and friends. Which I know with someone you like and trying to get to know. It could turn out like these 2...
DON'T PANIC! Remind yourself that you're doing awesome and to keep eye contact without being creepy.
End goal!
After following all those steps (even adding in your own spice to it), if all goes well then you have succeeded in approaching! Congratulations for passing the first time approaching!
The good news is after the first approach it becomes easier and less nerve-racking. Until you confess your feelings to them, yes that nervousness all comes back but trust me it's worth it! Plus that's another step for another day. :)
I hope this myTake helps a lot of people that have trouble approaching someone you like. Also let me know about your experiences with approaching someone and how did it go?
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