Why can't I just do it?
Have you ever had a crush that you're unsure of their feelings for you? Have you ever hesitated to move things along with someone because you're afraid of what might happen? Have you ever stopped yourself from showing signs of interest; better yet, showing signs of disinterest? This is what's know as the fear of rejection, and I assure you, this is the only thing stopping your crush from showing interest in you, or asking you out. Everyone would love to jump at the chance for them and their crush to be together, but it's this damn fear that stops them from getting what they want, and showing them what they need.
Moving too Slowly
Men, as far as from what I've learned about women, if you see signs of interest from them, take action. Women are ready to move things along if they show that they are interested in you. Move too slowly, and she will begin to question your interest in them, and fall into the fear of rejection. They will hesitate to show further interest in you, thus making it harder for you to gauge their interest in you furthermore. Although we may not know it, women feel as though they've shown plenty of signs and signals that they are interested if they are interested, and so you must take notice and take action as soon as possible. They will always be ready for you, since they're interested in you. You must be the one to take matters into your own hands and guide her alongside you in order to avoid having to overthink any situation whether or not she still likes you or not. The quicker you respond to her signs of interest, the better.
Being far too aloof
Do you happen to hide feelings for your crush in hopes that he'll eventually come over to you? Do you reject him, still knowing deep down that you really like him? Are you afraid to show signs of interest because you wouldn't know whether or not he likes you back? Unfortunately, no one will ever know whether or not anyone likes anyone, unless they ask. Commonly done by guys, it is done because they have already seen signs of interest from you, and decided to capitalize on them. Guys will never truly know that you're interested in them, so they decide to take the risk of asking you out in order to have a chance with the beautiful woman you are. Because they must take that risk, the chances of them likely to take the risk rises with the more interest you show. Because of this, waiting around for your crush by ignoring him or portraying negative behavior or body language can and will repel your crush from you, since guys will never believe that you're interested if you try to hide your feelings. They fall into the fear of rejection, because he believes that you aren't interested in him. They will even cease to look at you, which I know is a terrible thing to digest. Ladies, if you want to be approached by your crush, you must make it easy for them to do so.. even if you're shy, guys need to know whether or not you're interested in order for them to have the slightest chance of making a move on you.
Rejection is a terrible thing to go through, though it is still necessary for everyone to go through in order for people to learn of their mistakes. Avoid making those mistakes, and you could be happy with the person you'd love the most.
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