Just as there are many exceptional ways for you to easily build up and and spice up sexual attraction, there are many mistakes that can cause if to fade, nullifying your efforts at flirting.
Being too nice
By catering to her very whim, doing favors that she's more than capable of doing on her own, supplying her with a load of gifts or any other unnecessaries, you are making yourself more of the provider type instead of the lover type, and this is not what you want. Generally, being nice is just enough, but instead you are being nice in hopes of something more. A woman does need to know if your niceness is genuine, and being her provider will not cut it.
Being too available
By answering to his every text, going out of your way for him at every time, or making yourself seem content with being used, you are letting them know that you value them, and when you do, they will find you less valuable, as you always want what you don't have. If a man or a woman does not feel entitled into getting whatever they want, you leave room for more attraction to build up, and respect for yourself.
Indecisiveness
Most women don't like making decisions, men. They want to be treated like princesses, and they need you to take charge. Being indecisive is not an attractive quality when flirting with women.
Moving too slowly
Women: Men need you to be as obvious as possible with your subtle signs of attraction. Even if you are shy, you are still able to show a guy that you like him without much concern over if he got the message, but you must be obvious about it. Your crush is a crush for a reason right? Show him why he is different from the other guys by acting different from every other guy. It's the only sign anyone would need. Do not wait for signs from him.
Men: Women will NOT wait around for you forever. Many are very patient, but just as you found her attractive, many guys are also likely to find her attractive as well. Unless you want to take the risk of another guy sweeping her off her feet and taking her away, advance as quickly as possible. Do not move too slowly. Emotional feelings may not fade as easily, but attraction, especially sexual attraction caused by flirting does.
Moving too quickly
Yes, I know that women love sex. Yes I know that men love sex. However, women feel the need to have an emotional connection before that can happen. Because of this, moving too quickly can turn her off, even though you aren't supposed to be moving too slowly. It's all about balance here, and although it's always a great idea to flirt, it's never a good idea to show to them that you're ready to get down to business.
Overconfidence
Finally, there is arrogance, where you flirt with the intentions of you getting the best when you feel like you deserve the best. I know that arrogance is sometimes unintentional such as where you act interesting of acting interested, but the results will remain the same. Even if you were to score a date by acting unintentionally arrogant, by telling them everything about yourself as an attempt to act interesting, there will be nothing left to look forward to learning. No mystery.
If you are interested in someone, always try the best you can without giving yourself to them, that way your self respect, your security, and your success in flirting all remain intact.
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