Jumping the gap

Just2DangNice
Tired of being the friend? The best friend? The go to guy?

Girls you like always get the wrong idea, and think you just want to be friends forever.

Stop the cycle.

If you recently met someone who you wish to start dating, there are easy ways to to get her and yourself ready to date.
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1. Establish contact.

Get in the door. Make yourself known. Get a number, email, anything, and make sure she will remember you.

2. The event.

Parties, bonfires, group hangouts, bowling, rioting, AA, just about anything will do. Ask if she will go with you to such'n'such. Be perfectly clear that it's a group event, but you want to take her.

3. Two days.

Prep time. Get a date setup. Know what you will do and where you will go, if anywhere. Plan ahead to give yourself proper footing.


4. Ask her.

This is not time to share feelings. A simple question, mid conversation. DO NOT just say hey, want to go out. Either meet up at another public event, or call her about some other convenient other need to call. if she says no, its going to suck. It happens. Try not to seem to Broken up. Hopefully, she will yes, is she does, follow up. "I was thinking we could..." and you're in.

5. Hit the date hard.

Remember, you care about this date, but you don't need it, and you're still unsure about dating her too. Be prepared for the date, but don't bring her presents. Feel free to buy her something on the date, but don't bring anything unnecessary.
"Be perfectly clear that it's a group event, but you want to take HER."
6. 2nd date: Try to get a double date.

Couples make other couples closer. if you cant, no big deal. Now is the time to bring something. Single flower. Beanie baby. Small and cheap. Go for a movie. Something at someone's house.

Why? easy to get close. Watch a movie. set a mood. sit close on the couch. let her lean on you if you can. And if she lets you get close, go for a kiss. 80%. and stop. if she doesn't stop you/ back away, go the rest of the way (if she doesn't close the gap herself).

7. Relationship.

Stay committed, stay attentive.
Jumping the gap
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