Girls would you sleep/cuddle with your guy friends?

[johnmcpherson]

I've known this friend of mine for a while. We could talk almost everyday, and sometimes Skype through late nights. And go out for eats together occasionally. Sometimes i do get teases from our mutual female friends, that she's into me. usually i just shrug it off thinking it was nonsense.

but what i noticed recently made me think otherwise... there was this time around 11pm where she invited me over to her place for a movie (no its not a booty call, we come from rather conservative backgrounds lol). a movie that we wanted to watch together earlier in the week. i live like 10 mins walk away from her so why not.

so while we were watching, she was a bit flirty than usual. i had slight feelings for her then so decided to make a move by putting my arms around her. she took it well and actually placed her head on my chest. basically cuddling throughout the movie.

after the movie ended but she was still cuddling me and we chatted til she fell asleep. cuddling until daylight. she even held my hand while she slept.

ok so i thought to myself she is for sure into me. the next few days she seemed to act like her cool normal self. i tried to turn our relationship to the next level, asking for dates etc. but weeks after she seemed to be less chatty, almost avoiding me at times. so it got me confused whether she's into me or not. or maybe she's not ready for a relationship.

so it got me thinking, do girls cuddle with guy friends they have no feelings for? before that event, i heard from her friends she's not the type to cuddle people.

few months past, and not much progress on my upgrade relationship with her. though we are friends, she seems to avoid my advances. shall i just keep it cool for now? according to her younger sister, she's not ready for a relationship and waiting for the right moment. could that be the reason she's acting distant all of a sudden?

[Aetumn]

Keep it cool :)
She probably does have feelings, and she's even more probably afraid of them, so she's pretending like nothing happened, and your behavior is not helping her.
I think she doesn't want your relationship to change; not that she doesn't want to date you, but she doesn't want the fact that she's dating you affect how you deal with each other (the whole official 'shall we go on a date tonight, my love?', etc.).
You guys are friends? Stay friends, date as friends eventually, but don't make a whole big deal out of it. She doesn't want to start doing things you didn't do before (minus sex) just because you guys suddenly become a couple. It's frightening for her, so if you want this to work, make the transition go as smoothly as possible.

[thinkpink6786]

I can see that she deffinatly does like you! I have a best guy friend who im very close with and I've never cuddled with him. If I did decide to cuddle with him It would probably be because I liked him or was falling for him. She probably doesn't know you like her back, she's probably thinking that you dont like her and that you just see her as a friend so thats probaly why she went back to acting normal the day after..because she might be protecting her self from getting hurt, she might even be scared that if you guys do date it could ruin your friendship.. She also probably wants to see if you will reciprocate her feelings or gestures more, as a girl that what I would want and You should talk to her about it!

[Londinium]

Just out of curiosity, how did she act when she woke up the next morning? Chirpy and happy? Embarrassed? Distant? However she acted then would be a good indication of what she felt.

But yeah, she's a friend, and a good one, but nothing more. She may have been feeling lonely or was maybe even interested that night. But now she's had time to evaluate it, and she's not interested in anything romantic.

Girls know how to make it clear we're interested. We know how to make it clear when we're not interested...but if it's with a close friend, it's hard to be too blunt and direct.

[Metal189]

they shouldn't be doing it, if they're not dating you

[Cleveland]

I have slept next to/cuddled/skinny dipped with guy friends, but never actually dated them. I will say that I would not have done that if I wasn't attracted to them. Even though I did those things, I didn't necessarily want a romantic relationship with them, I just felt safe with them.

[Anonymous]

From personal experiences, I've done what she has.
It may have been that she was attracted to you at first and a thought may have come into her head. We, girls, get lonely. We want someone to hold us and tell us everything will be okay. We want that sense of security and we go to the guys we know are willing to provide it for us.

[sherlocked]

No. Why would I do that if I wasn't interested in him? That's just plain weird.

I guess she just got embarrassed and was like "Oh God I can't believe I actually did that...he must think I am a complete idiot" or something.

[Shania-Mia]

She was most probably into you especially if she doesn't usually hug people, but I dont think she's ready yet, just be normal again and if she wants you she'll tell you if she carrys on being hot and cold ask her directly you are not a mind reader.

[teasegirl]

I have slept and cuddle with with my friends, guys and girls. It was totally innocent, I never touched their privates or they touched me. It was just sweet cuddling <3 I miss those days...

[Dcosse]

Honestly it seems like she's toying with your emotions or just not sure what her's are. She's into you when she wants to be probably doesn't really want it to be more than that

[snsdloveesther]

have u ever seen her with other guys? if not, then u can be quite sure that she is into u. later she probably got a bit embarrassed or stuff like that