My crush knows I like her but I don't know how to find out if she likes me back?

[ddogg155555]

I realy need some help here... my crush knows I like her but I talked to one of her (not so close) friends and from what they know she only likes me as a friend... how can I find out if she likes me? I would take her out but I can't drive yet... girls please help?

Updates

+1 y

Ok so I texted her goodmorning (like always) and I asked her if she had ever thought of me as more than a friend

[kitkat9]

How did she find out you like her? Did you actually say it to her face, without a lot of other people around? If not, I think you should do so. You may think she knows how you feel when she actually doesn't, or she could be waiting for you to tell her yourself. If you have told her directly, unfortunately I think she either doesn't feel the same way or is being a little shy. Try confronting her when she is alone. Do not ask her about her feelings for you before you tell her your own feelings first. Be polite and understanding no matter how she reacts, because even if it's not what you want to hear remember that she is not genuinely trying to hurt you. Best of luck!

[ddogg155555]

I did tell her but not in person but now she seems to avoid me in person but we send like 50 snapchats back and forth a day

[kitkat9]

Ok yeah I think your only real option here is to pull her aside and just come straight out with it. If she makes an excuse to get away and continues to avoid you, I think she probably isn't interested and is just trying not to ruin your friendship. So sorry if that's the case. Keep being her friend, though. Who knows, maybe it's just not the right time for you two but it will be down the road!

[ddogg155555]

I've been friends with her my whole life and if the case is she doesn't like me then that's that but she is most definatly still my friend

[lumos]

Since she knows you like her, it's safe to say that she would have told you that she likes you back by now (if she did). But she hasn't, so I doubt she likes you like that. The reason why is because she already knows of your feelings. She wouldn't have anything to lose if she confessed, because she'd know that it would work out. She hasn't confessed, which in my opinion means that she's not interested in you. You could always ask her straight up if she likes you back, but I doubt she'll give you the answer you want to hear.

[ddogg155555]

The answer I want to hear is an honest answer not yes not no cause either way we are still friends.

[lumos]

Well, that's good to hear. Then let me rephrase it: I doubt she'll say yes.

[koibito]

That totally makes sense to me. I'm surprised I didn't realise it sooner. And at the same time relieved I didn't realise it, because had I did, I'd have given up earlier in chasing a girl and missed my chance.

[ddogg155555]

Well I hope that's not the case but like I said if she does say no I'm fine with that

[zALEXz]

Okay, if you really, really want to know then just ask her. Straight up, hey so I'm sorta wondering do you like me? Or something like that, just bring it up in conversation or something, has to be asked in person, face to face though. If you know her well, then just her expression should tell you. Well, good luck!!! :)

[ddogg155555]

I know her and I also know she doesn't showbemotion right off the bat lol so fri I asked her if she liked me (online) and sat every time I would see her she would sortta blush and avoid me but I can't tell if its cause she likes me or if she feels sorry for me

[zALEXz]

Well, you kinda can't ask these questions online because, it makes it easy for her to lie, sure it's harder to ask in person, but it'd be worth it. You can't let her avoid the question, but at the same time you don't want to annoy her with it...

[ddogg155555]

How do I aproach a girl about that? I don't want to make her uncomf

[zALEXz]

I really wouldn't know because I don't know you or her but the way this one guy asked me was just having a normal conversation then casually slipping in that question. You can do like truth or dare or anything. For some people (especially me) the topic is always going to be uncomfortable, but you just gotta do it. I have both asked and been asked, in both positions it's uncomfortable, but it'll be worth it.

[ddogg155555]

Ok thanks foryour help yes it will be an uncomfortible topic to descus but if it has to be done then that's that thanks again for your help

[zALEXz]

No problem!! Good luck!!! :)

[Anonymous]

Based on what others have mentioned, I do agree that she doesn't like you back. Don't bother asking, it's gonna scare her off and be creepy.

But she may be open to getting to know you more than just as a friend. Ask her out casually on a non-obligatory outing. No pressure, no stress, no trying to get in her pants or being pushy. Just try to get comfortable being just the two of you together, and if she continues to accept your invitations, that is a green light for you to make it "more than just friends".

[CypherV]

I wouldn't listen to the 'not so close' friend if I was you. What I would do is ask her out. You've got nothing to lose by asking her out and whether it's a yes or a no, you'll have your answer and you can move forward if she does like you or move on if she doesn't like you.

[RonnieVS]

So what me and my friends do is we decide a date to go out (movies, rollerskating rink, etc...) and "invite" someone with us. Technically its a date but with a group of friends, you can spend alone time with her and find out if she feel the same way about you as you do to her.

[meowcatwoman]

She definitely likes you as just a friend. Otherwise, she would have told her friends her feelings for you. And if they knew you both liked each other, they most likely would be trying to get u guys together, so they wouldn't be hiding it from you. So sorry man.

[ddogg155555]

The "friend" I asked wasn't a very close friend to her and I don't know any of her other friends so I can't ask them

[meowcatwoman]

That changes things then. Then the problem is you. There is nothing stopping you from going up to one of her close friends and asking. It's better than going up to her and asking yourself when you have no idea whether she likes you or not?

I asked my crush if he liked me, but I already knew he liked me, it was obvious through how flirty we are and everything so it felt natural asking him. And he does of course :)

Just ask one of her friends. But if she knows you like her and hasn't been giving you more attention lately, I doubt she likes you, unless she is shy? Perhaps?

[ddogg155555]

We hardly spoke but now that she knows I like her we talk in person and text A LOT more

[meowcatwoman]

Reasons this could be occurring is if she actually likes you, is more curious about you because you like her, or is kind of an ego boost knowing she likes you and is giving you more attention to get attention back (this is more common for guys though).

Is she shy? Tell me more information if possible :)

[ddogg155555]

She only seems to be shy to people at first like she has warmed up to me cause we have always been frinds but she does get shy when it comes to awkward conversation

[meowcatwoman]

Yeah, I'm the same, I am shy around people I don't know, or people I haven't associated with much.

She gets shy when it comes to awkward conversation? How is it awkward?

[ddogg155555]

This is one case I guess but I'm talking awkward convo. In general

[meowcatwoman]

Like when there is awkward silence and everything you say to eachother doesn't help with the conversation and you just want to get out of there awkward? I've had that sort of conversation with my crush and we both like eachother. So this doesn't count for anything, it can sometimes just happen.

Does she ever stare at you? What types of texts do you send eachother?

[ddogg155555]

Yes that kinda awkward lol. I don't know if she stares at me. If I'm looking at someone I tend to look away if they look my way lol. And pretty much just snapchat we send pictures of ourselfs with just short messages attached

[meowcatwoman]

What kind of photos does she send you? I'm guessing just innocent selfies. If she was showing cleavage or trying to pose sexy however, there is a change she is showing off because she likes you.

What evidence do you have that she likes you, and what evidence do you have that she doesn't like you?

[ddogg155555]

Well I just finished snapchatting with her cause she was going to sleep and the pictures of her I've godda admit she does look cute but most of them are jus normal selfies

[ddogg155555]

And yes every now and then I can see a little bit of clevage I'm just never sure if that's just how she's dressed or if its meant for me

[meowcatwoman]

How was she posed? what was she wearing?

[ddogg155555]

Pjs so a tank top and shorts and laying on her bed just like every other night

[meowcatwoman]

Just sounds like how she is dressed, depends on how big her boobs are. For me, even though I'm DD, I have to push my boobs together to form cleavage for a photo lol. So if I was showing cleavage, when I don't usually, I would be flirting with you

[meowcatwoman]

Well from the snapchats she sends you, you can't tell if she likes you.

The best way to tell is when you are talking to her and check her body language towards you.

[ddogg155555]

The only tell tail signs I've noticed is if she's sitting next to me she sometimes kinda leans on me and when we are talking face to face she touches my arms a lot

[meowcatwoman]

These are the signs you should be looking for! Has she only done this since she found out you like her?

And how did she find out by the way?

[ddogg155555]

I told her and no she has always done that kinda stuff but when we are around other friends I'm the only one she seams to actualy touch well only guy

[meowcatwoman]

How did she react when you told her you liked her?

(Next time, ask a girl if she likes you so if she says yes, you can tell her your feelings and if she says no, then you can leave it at that and just be friends)

You being the only guy she touches is a good sign. Perhaps she does like you.

[ddogg155555]

Well that's what I'm hoping for lol and when I told her she seamed a bit suprided at first but pretty chill for the most part

[meowcatwoman]

She didn't realize you liked her :) And she didn't freak out... she definitely has put some thought into it. I think you should start touching her when associating with her, just as much as she does it to you. Start talking more in person and if you like, ask her out and you may have a shot.

[taybaybay]

well the good thing is if she knows you like her and she still acts normal there's a chance she likes you and is keeping to herself. but don't trust people always go to the source. straight up ask her. they could ruin your chance by feeding you false information.

[ddogg155555]

She acts normal talking to me exept for sat when she kinda avoided me and blushed when we did talk

[taybaybay]

what do you mean by avoided you?

[ddogg155555]

I would be walking towrds her and she would turn away and go a diferant direction but when I did talk to her she didn't seem as mad as me a embaressed but I don't know why

[taybaybay]

that may have been a coincidence lol. but the best thing to do is be straight up and ask. it'll eat you up if you don't. and I'm still friends with guys that used to like me, it won't ruin your relationship. but you should find out for yourself if she does or doesn't like you. don't wait forever.

[ddogg155555]

I am sure it won't mess up our friendship but I'm still kinda nervious asking though

[taybaybay]

its ok to be nervous but trust me once you've asked/found out you're so relieved and its basically torture waiting to find out/not knowing!

[ddogg155555]

I did ask her on snapchat but I was told that that is not the best way to find out and that I want to find out from her

[Lauren2410]

I guess if you really aren't sure, you should ask her. But the fact that she knows and didn't tell you anything like she likes you back too or stuff, sounds like you're just a friend to her. And since when you need to drive to date? You could just walk to somewhere.

[ddogg155555]

Getting to her house could be and issue without a car and the only reason I'm not sure if she likes me or not is that she talks to me A LOT more now that she knows I like her than when she didn't

[Lauren2410]

Well the fact that she talks to you more is a good sign. Does she live that far from you?

[ddogg155555]

A few miles but my mom hates me walking the main roads wich I have to to get to her house

[Lauren2410]

A few miles is something.. You could maybe meet up when going out.
Also abbout the talking more, she may be curious to know more before deciding if she likes you too. If you wanna know so bad, ask her, but remember there's a chance she won't and she just considers you an ego boost.

[ddogg155555]

Even if she doesn't like me like that I wouldn't be crushed I would be upset but she would still be one of my friends

[Lauren2410]

Well that's good :) But it would take you a while to get over her

[ddogg155555]

Yes that it would but that doesn't mean its impossible

[Lauren2410]

Hope it goes better for you haha. For me, he rejected me , said we'll stay friends and we stopped talking. A summer later he and his friends were laughing when seeing me and called me a whale. yep, lol.. ugly day

[ddogg155555]

Well I'm sure. It was his loss

[man32]

She is not into you bro like i said in the other comment. She gets uncomfortable which u see it as shyness... dont. A girl will jump to be with u. Only way to know or prove me wrong is ask her out. Dont over analyze

[imnotinsane]

Wish my crush would ask me if I liked him and wanted to go out on a date. I dont mind the bus or a cab lol

[ddogg155555]

Bus or cab. Don't work in the country (where we live) lol

[imnotinsane]

Lol oh ookay

[ddogg155555]

:p lol

[polkadotprincess]

ask her to a movie and if she doesn't like you as any thing more than a friend you can just go as friends

[ddogg155555]

But I can't drive and my parents wouldn't take us out cause tecnichaly I can't date till I'm 17

[polkadotprincess]

I understand that struggle

[ddogg155555]

Ya I hate the no dating till your 17 this (lil do they no I've had 3 gfs lol) all of them where kinda nuts though lol

[polkadotprincess]

Yeah I have had two bfs but my parents found out about one and I was grounded for a month

[ddogg155555]

Ya parents can be so unresonable (like if mine found out I use this site for advise lol)

[polkadotprincess]

Yeah my sister almost found out so I made up a story about getting math help on this sote

[polkadotprincess]

Site

[ddogg155555]

I just say it was a pop up I clicked by mistake and I cover my tracks with history being deleted lol

[polkadotprincess]

That's a good idea

[ddogg155555]

Ya it works with this site but unfortunatly not with some other sites lol

[EllysaLeigh17]

Just be completely and bluntly straightforward and ask her. Preferably not around her friends, just when you two are alone, or even texting. Just a simple, "hey, I'm pretty curious, do you like me?" Kinda thing. (:

[e92brah]

FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF. dont ask anyone!!! go up to her and say hey lets hang out at xyz

[ddogg155555]

I talk to her all the time (in person, snapchat, facebook, ect.) And she avoids the topic or changes it if I bring it up

[e92brah]

so then she doesn't like u bruh

[zALEXz]

You can't really say that, because she might just be shy... I have done that before.

[man32]

Zalexx... sorry to disagree with u... a girl is shy like will say no but give another alternate which she feels its comfy for her. Not a blunt no or change topic... a shy girl would be thrilled. Asker-She is not interested as a friend. Find someone else. Been there done that. Dont get emotionally involved

[Anonymous]

Have you ever even been on a real date?

[ddogg155555]

I'm tecnichaly not allowed to date till I'm 17 so I don't have a driving. Licence to take her anywhere and my parents wouldn't take us so no

[Opinion Owner]

How old are you? It's not really a relationship if you don't spend any time alone together.

[ddogg155555]

We are both 15 but I do hang out with her alone like walkin round town and swimming in the creek and stuuf but never a real "date"

[Opinion Owner]

So you've never even taken out your "girlfriends" to an actual date where you paid for them?

[ddogg155555]

I have taken them on like a picknick at the park and bought them gifts like jewlry and chocolates and stuff like that if that's what you mean but to like the movies or a resturaunt then no I haven't and I can't

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah but it doesn't count if you used your parents money. I'm assuming you don't have a job.

[ddogg155555]

No I have odd jobs and you don't use a parents money to prove you love someone I use my own money or else it wouldn't mean anything

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly I don't know why you didn't just ask her out if you have known her for so long or did you just start liking her more than a friend?

[ddogg155555]

I have just recently started liking her more than a friend and in not exactly pro romantic (haven't even kissed a girl) so I am pretty nervious about asking her if she likes me or not

[Opinion Owner]

She might have liked you when you dated those other girls and felt crushed when you asked them to be your girlfriend instead of her /:

[ddogg155555]

I never even thought of how she would have felt then

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just curious but why are you so nervous about asking her if she likes you? You've asked out girls before and I'm assuming you weren't nervous when you asked them to be your girlfriend so why are you nervous now?

[ddogg155555]

Because this is someone I have always been friends with and that I realy know and realy like and with her I'm just afraid of messing up I guess

[Opinion Owner]

And you weren't afraid to mess up with the other girls? Then act like she's just another girl you don't care about messing up with.

[ddogg155555]

Ya I guess you could say I care about her more

[Opinion Owner]

You should've asked her out instead of the other girls if you liked her more than them!

[ddogg155555]

Like I said before I've just started liking her as more than a friend but she is one of my close friends