I get rejected a lot...is this normal?
okay, so I get rejected way to much...over the past 6 months, I have tried to get a date with 36 women that I have talked to around campus, I've gotten rejected every time...being rejected 36 times in a row seems like a lot. I can't speak for anyone else, I've only lived life in my shoes, but is this a normal statistic for rejections? is it normal to get a string of 36 rejections in a row?
Now, here's some more information about me: I have a good personality, I'm very friendly and respectful towards women, I'm also funny and easy to get along with. So it seems to me I have the personality qualification, so I don't see how I could place the blame for my rejections on my personality.
Now about my looks: I consider myself an attractive guy, other dudes seem to consider me attractive as well in their opinion: theyve said stuff like "why aren't you a model, you look like a model" or "why don't you have a GF, you're an attractive guy". However, I NEVER get this from women. No women ever compliment my looks or EVER hit on me or EVER even check me out. this leads me to believe that I along with many other dudes that have poor judgment in judging male attractiveness. I'm beginning to conclude that I'm actually ugly, and that my personal judgment is way off (which I'm still having trouble grasping that my judgment is off) and that all the dudes that have complimented my looks also must be poor judges like myself...
So is it normal to get rejected this much? could it be that I'm actually not a good looking man like myself.? It seems my possible lacking in the looks department is the only rational explanation that can explain my results.
Girls, I would love your thought, guys too...
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
Looks do matter but they are not everything.. personality..and the way you approach them will have something to do with things... So maybe it's the way you come on to women..
sometimes if you come on to strong..women tend to step back and reject a guy... from the way you've described your rejections.. I don't think there are many guys that have even approached that many women in that period of time to even get rejected that much.. so that let's me know you might be trying to take girls out right away or just not approaching them wrong.
What Girls Said 1
Looks have little to do with rejection on my part. If you look fairly decent and I think you have a good personality, I will definitely take you up on your offer. Women are definitely less picky about looks than men so I really don't think you are getting rejected because of looks. It must be something else. What kind of stuff do you say to them? How do you approach them? To be honest with you, if you are all that you say you are, 36 rejections is a lot.
What Guys Said 1
hey, I'm a medicine student and want to study in aesthetics. I have a little knowledge of face beauty and characteristics of attractive face. I can tell you a few things about your face , as well as my own opinion, if you send me a picture from frontal and a picture from lateral view.by the way, I always try to be as objective as possible and truth-teller about the facts of life to myself. I strongly claim that people (no matter they are male or female) are NOT deciding to go out with someone by looking his/her personality. this thing is ALL ABOUT THE LOOKS. (as well as so many other things in life, sadly..) self confidence and other aspects of personality and behavior that's related to attractiveness of a person take form by the attitues of people towards him/her, which are strongly about the appearence of that person. thus, can you give me more information about your looks? your height, weight and most importantly your face?