Why does she keep going back to her ex?

Met a girl and we got along great. Found out from mutual friends she even had a crush on me. I didn't make a move because she had a boyfriend. She didn't tell me that, I found out from another one of our mutual friends. I ask her about the boyfriend that she forgot to mention to me and she tells me... Show More

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  • Well obviously you're confused. Who wouldn't be. Here are a few possibilities that could help answer your questions:

    Possibility Number One:

    Well, she really does like you. She just found stability in her old boyfriend and that's why she got back together with him. She always wanted to be at the very least, friends with you, but you pushed her away when telling her that you wanted to be more than that. She got more intrigued with you by saying that (because girl's are weird like that). Then broke it off with her boyfriend, realizing what a mistake she made. Now, she wants to be friends with you again, so maybe later she'll have a shot with a romantic relationship later on.

    Possibility Number Two

    She always wanted to be just friends. She thought that she might have a thing for you, then decided that it was just a friend type of thing. Sometimes for girls, it's difficult to explain our feelings. We don't know if we like a guy as a friend or more than that. It's hard to tell, and maybe this was one of those times for her. Now that she broke up with the guy AGAIN, she either A) found out that she actually does have feelings for you or B) really wants to be friends because you're a great guy.

    Possibility Number Three

    She's confused and needs someone to be there for her. Lucky boy, she chose you! Through everything, she knew that you cared for her. She knew that you were there for her. Now, when she breaks up again, she wants you to put her shoulder on. You may not like that, but it is just another idea being put out there.

    Possibility Number Four

    She is an evil conniving self-centered son of a bitch. She's using you. No doubt about it. She wants you only for the physical part of the relationship and doesn't like you for anything more than that.

    Possibility Number Five

    She wants both you and her Ex-Boyfriend/Boyfriend. This could also be the case. She might want to be with you, but she still has feelings for this other guy. Now that she broke up, she might have made up her mind, and want to be friends with you. She might be thinking that friendship could lead to a relationship. She was just confused and now everything is clear.

    Possibility Number Five


    Okay, now, that I'm finished with all of the possibilities, which sounds most like her?

    Maybe that will help you answer you questions.

    I don't know this girl, so it's hard for me to say, but from your descriptions of her, I would go with Possibility Number Two. She might have been confused about her feelings, and now she has come up with an answer to them. Whether it's A) or B), I'm not sure.

    Well, I hope this helped. Message me when you find out anything!!

    • My friends ,that are girls, say 1 or 2/a are probably my answer. Part of me says she is worth any risk I could take, the other says don't be played for a fool again. She has friends that she has known much longer than me so why not cry on their shoulder?