we do feel bad when we reject because we feel like we have hurt him and we take it personally
as for me I have learned to put myself in other people shoes so yea I can feel how a guy would feel if I rejected him and I feel as bad I get mad at myself and sometimes will try to do so much to compensate like tell him we can be good friends try to indirectly set him up or get his attention on another girl because I just simply feel terrible!
and yea we do cry when we have to turn down a guy we like because its just hard th emotions are there but there are other problems it can kill both the guy and the girl
when I reject a nice guy, yes I feel bad. but I have to be honest... it's for a more selfish reason. if he was good to me, and an overall nice guy, then I really enjoyed having him as a friend. after rejecting him, it usually ruins the friendship, they get distant from me, and our relationship changes. I've lost a lot of really great male friends after they told me they had strong feelings for me, and I didn't reciprocate the feelings... but some guys accept it and are able to remain a good friend of mine
We feel horrible rejecting guys, even if we didn't like them at all.
If we like them back, its so much worse. We don't wanna reject them, we don't wanna let go, but there is obviously a reason that we have to.. We feel like monsters, and we feel like sh*t, and we kick ourselves for being so horrible..
And yeah.. we cry.
Alone in our rooms, something reminds us of something, and we bawl.
Oh yes, I can tell you from personal experience that we feel horrible about turning our friends down when they ask us out. This one friend of mine told me he loved me, and I had to tell him I didn't have those kinds of feelings for him. We were so close I was afraid he would want to talk to me after being rejected. I cried, but eventuallly we started talking again. We stil get together and hang out. Just now I know not to let him get the wrong idea.
i feel bad when I regect a guy. I do it a lot due to my job. I am never around to give a guy the attention he desrves, I just figure if I tell him it can't be that he is better off with agirl that can be there for him. I usualy go home and cry. it hurts when I choose to be alone.
It totally depends on the girl. When I turn down a guy I always feel guilty about having to do it. Especially if they are really nice to begin with. I don't think I have ever cried about having to turn down a guy before though.
yes I just did it 7th period when I did it was like who cares but now I feel really really bad
I'd feel bad, whoever the guy was. I might cry if he was someone I really loved as a friend and felt that it was hurting him.
yes of course a girl would feel bad...well at least I would feel bad. I've been asked out a few times to a guy I kind of liked and I said no because we had a great friendship and I didn't want that to change. I felt extremely bad and I couldn't stop thinking about if I hurt him.
Depends on if you're dealing with a woman or a girl.
In my opinion, based on my rejections and the sheer level of disrespect and nastiness, I gotta say most girls either don't mind rejecting a guy they think is a loser, or that those people a lot of them actually take pleasure in it. They tend to act more repulsed and offended that I dared to ask them out.
Women on the other hand, I think most of them feel bad about it if you treated them with respect. Some may not really notice.
And many girls, in my experience, will make fun of the guy or choose to insult the guy, and show a lot of disrespect. Women tend to be more mature about it, and tend to handle it better.
Now, to answer your last question, I don't think any woman or girl has cried after they've rejected me. I don't know, but I'm pretty sure that it's not that huge of an issue to them.
I've known this girl for about a year, 1month ago I started to like her, so I began talking to her about herself and things that she likes, I got her some simple gifts over time hoping that she would appreciate it and start to like me back. I spent time with her as mush as I could without making it awkward, so valentines day comes and I get her a teddy bear and a card that says be mine... 2 weeks later I ask her to be my girlfriend and she says she needs to think about it, it took her 5 days to give me the answer. The fifth day comes with the answer and it was a yes! I walk her home that day and give her a hug. the next day I come to school and she already wants to breakup with me saying that she doesn't feel conferable dating me so she broke up with me. Felt like sh*t and wanted to die, but I now realize she's not worth it,and I'll will move on.