Flirting or seducing-what's the difference?

[Anonymous]

I wanted to ask how can a girl see the difference in flirting or seducing.
and in general how can you describe both of these actions, how guys acts, what they do, hints?

[TripleAce]

Flirting, actions one may do towards another with the intention of creating a connection between the two. Usually in the form of the opposite sex, and most of the time when there is attraction involved. Flirting is actions that solidifies that mutual feeling of attraction.

Seduction, the act of being smooth or clever enough to be able to make the other let their guards down and possibly have them compromise their rules. Its usually attached to sexual feelings due to an intense and magnified attraction since the other has now be infiltrated by you. When you have been overpowered by words or actions in a good way, you generally feel an intense feeling for the one that was able to achieve that.

Seduction is very sexy...

[Asker]

ok. examples?

[TripleAce]

Flirting - playful gestures, double entendre, suggestive banter.. Things that are playful towards each other. Tickling for example or play fighting

Seduction - Typical back and forth conversation that can be leading to making each other feeling hot. Grabbing her hand and slow dancing with her, or doing the tango if you can. Giving her roses but being romantic but always keeping her on her feet and feeling tempted. The key here is that most women have guards up to allowing themselves to feel hot for a man, most women want a man to try hard to get her to do things she thinks is bad, being bad naughty. So things that make her compromise that rule, is done by seducing her. Wooing a women, swiping her off her feet, being prince charming. making her say wow, what a night ouff.

And finally, if you can, making her want you so bad, that naturally you seduced her so well, that instead of waiting 1 month to sleep with you, she just has this burning desire to do it NOW

[Asker]

about feeling "naughty" no, that's not true. don't do that! the rest - i kinda agree.

[TripleAce]

Feeling naughty is not a bad thing? is it?

I didn't say BE naughty, I said feel it... Its good to have that feeling with someone, it means things are in the right direction and everything works. Doesn't mean you have to act on it... but to feel it is surely a good thing

Now that you see the difference between Flirting and Seducing, you can simply keep an eye out on how you feel. there's no wrong or right, its simply what a man or women can make you feel. Whatever it is, its right in their perspective.

[Asker]

i think i just didn't get that right.
interesting, thanks.

[RenoTheGambler]

Flirting can be innocent. While seduction has a certain goal, it may be money, sex etc etc. Now here's the jist of it. Seduction involves anticipation and want for something. For instance, you know you shouldn't but he makes you want to. It brings a certain level of "hotness" to the situation that's difficult to say no to.

[Asker]

for example i know a guy who stares and gives me glances. smirks at me. stands really close, bumps into me. he always makes intense eye contact and holds it. we study in the same faculty, but he won't approach me.
i confess that he intrigues me. here is why i ask:is this behaviour considered seduction or flirting?
in your opinion.

[TripleAce]

Flirting!

[Asker]

nice)

[aru67]

Flirting- when that person compliments you and shit
seducing- when that person is doing hand movemnets and showing a part of their body

[Anonymous]

The best way to tell if a guy flirting with you is really interested in taking things further or just having a bit of fun, is probably to be forward and take a step to advance things. If you show your interest, he will either respond positively or not.

Your step forward can be somewhat ambiguous if you wish.

[Asker]

and seduction signs?

[Opinion Owner]

At it's early stages, seduction is flirting with the intent to go further. Flirting without that intent also exists. That is the difference between seduction flirting and other flirting.

If someone flirts with a lot of people, they are more likely to be doing it just for fun, but they might also be seriously trying to pick up everyone.

As I said, the best way to tell the two apart is to test the other person's interest in you. It's like comparing diamonds to cubic zirconia. They look exactly the same, but the zirconia will be scratched by a diamond and a diamond won't scratch another diamond.

[Anonymous]

Flirting : verbal interaction
seducing : body language
i think..

[Asker]

interesting) tell me more, what do you know about body language! you're a guy.

[Asker]

and also why no verbal intereaction in seduction?

[Opinion Owner]

I dont know much about body language since i never used it to attract women's attention ( i dont think it will worked) , i prefer appoach her verbally..
because , i think , seducing is more sexual than flirting, example , you can seduce a guy with sexy nightgown , no words necessary.
well. May be , just my opinion , lol..

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Flirting can be innocent... with no desire for sex at the end. Seduction has a definite end goal in mind.

[Asker]

yes. but i ask how can i know that this guy is actually flitring or no, he's actually seducing, i can't read their minds but i can observe their behaviour. what is this behaviour?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

If he's actually seducing you, he'll try to get you alone with him. Inviting you over, or out.

[molan]

In a word, getting 'lucky'. Flirting is kinda hoping to get sex or whatever, seducing is actually getting it.

[lukino]

flirting = words, light touching
seducing = come hither my body is ready