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How do you take texting from "friendly" to "flirty" without seeming creepy?
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Text him for little random reasons! Like if you are unsure of homework assignments or the time for some event... after he answers your question, keep the convo going! Make sure to start off with a few questions along the same subject like whether or not he is going to a game that night or what he's doing. Mention that you should do something sometime when you find things in common. Like if he likes ice cream suggest he meet you at your favorite ice cream place your treat! Be happy and if the conversation lulls, say you're busy but you'll tect him another time. It helps if you're the first to say goodbye so you're on his mind. Don't text him constantly and don't tell him everything you do. Be mysterious. Like if he asks you what's up, say something like the same fun thing I do every Saturday but don't include excessive details. Make him curious! See if he texts you first ever. Guys only text girls because the girl enjoys it. Texting is often bothersome for them so don't be upset if he doesn't text you back right away. Every once in a while, ignore him if you're busy and he'll wonder what you've been up to!
Don't be too eager. That's going to seem desperate, and guys like a challenge. For starters, wait a few minutes before replying to the first message if he initiates the conversation. Make it look like you have a life and that you don't necessarily *need* him. If he's into you, he'll want your attention on him.
If you initiate, have an idea of *why* you're texting him. Maybe be direct and say you would like to get to know him better. Start with something like "What do you think of (band or musician)?" Set the base for a topic. If he doesn't reply, he might not be into you, or he might not have you at such a high priority if he doesn't know you well, and forgot to reply because he was busy at the time. Try again in a few days with something like "Hey/What's up".
Once the conversation has some good back and forth, it's OK to reply a bit quicker, and make you seem engaged and interested in what he has to say. If he starts sending 1-word answers, he might be losing interest. When to say goodbye will depend on the conversation.
Don't "leave him guessing" but text him about things that can be left open so you can continue the conversation when you see one another in person next. There's a guy i text occasionally (re: rarely cause we see each other practically every day so whats the point) and he's usually got at least one thing that he likes to recall back on from our brief and infrequent conversations almost every time i see him after a "texting session"
Start using terms with double meaning and see how he responds. Use Hug, Come, Love, interesting, provocative. Mention getting ready for bed, taking a shower, changing clothes, shopping for heels. Talking about deep breathing and stretching in yoga class.
there is nothing weird about text him, just a simple "hi how you doing" and work from there. just like dates keep the conversation for an hour or less. text him every time you actually have something to talk about: for example something that you/him heard/seen today. it can be from the news, events.. etc. text every 2-3 days is fine. ill be annoyed if someone text me everyday. also to make it flirty, use a lot of smile faces and joke around in text.
also, when you text, please, PLEASE use correct grammar, and dont use the word "omg", that only with friends.
Hey :)
Hey!
Whatsup
Not much, just doing homework
Oh sweet!
Let's fuck
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I think most guys will agree that they don't take hints very well. So while you might think you are being overly creepy or overly flirty he may just portray it as you being nice.
My advice? Don't be annoying and don't act desperate but flirt as much as you can and move the flirting to real life because texting makes it so much more difficult :)
I think keep talking to him until you figure out he might be a little bit more friendly then usual then put the winky face emoji in a text.
You can make any text flirtatious with a winky face emoji.
"I want to kill you ;)"
"Take the trash out ;)"
"I hate your guts ;)"
See? ;)
https://i.imgur.com/lP028eQ.gif
I see a lot of "add emoji's" here, why? I mean, seriously?
I hate what most to all programms do with standart emoji's, but got used to it, so I eventually started to hate emoji's as they are.
If he's a single then almost no attempt go get flirty will be considered creepy.
and, yes, sexual innuendos work perfectly fine.
If you're a girl, just go fot it.
Guys will love it if you flirt. Trust us.
How would you do it if it was the other way round, as in a guy texting a girl?
Seriously just flirt, start with one line to tease him, then do it again.
Don't leave him hanging too much, guys don't understand the blanking for days or whatever. Maximum a few hours.
You can flirt with him just make sure he doesn't start asking for pictures
but i agree it's easier for girls to flirt with guys but do it but keep the
flirting at low key, say oh what's up baby? than see how he reacts
or say oh you would like to know what i am doing? i mean keep it
sort of low key it's really up to you how you want text him you are 18-24
From my experience women rarely come off as creepy, unless they're like hideous and a complete stalker. Keep things casual and tell him he's an amazing guy. If that doesn't get him to budge tell him that a picture you saw of him looked yummy. If that doesn't work he's either A. Retarded B. Not interested C. Gay or really shy and insecure. Which if he is shy and insecure you'll lose interest in him anyways.
Its easy for a girl to do it. But not a guy. If I was the luckiest guy in the world, and it was me you wanted to flirt with via writing... I can think of a couple ways...
Hmm. You should throw in a line like 'I think I'm gonna take a nice, warm bath soon.' That is a perfect way to bring to image of you as a sexual being into his mind without being nasty. Hmm. What else...
You can always ask him if he thinks you would be attractive, by describing yourself to him. Then you'll just seem like a typical girl concerned about her self-esteem.
Am I helping you at all?
I thought most guys don't like it when girls are always fishing for compliments and acting like they have no self-confidence?
Yes, that's true. I can attest to that. I HATE it! But there is a fine line. Anymore than one off hand comment a day, that prompts me to say - 'No... you're way cuter that her...' is too much. You'll always know where you stand with me. I don't believe in stringing girls along like that, to keep them following me. I'll make it clear how attractive I think you are, and will remind you, often, of how pretty you are to me. (The 'to me' part counts, if she isn't very physically attractive.)
I just had a girl do that THREE times, in ONE phone conversation! That pissed me off. Especially when I have made it clear, every time. At that point, she is just making herself seem superficial to me. Its a HUGE turnoff! HUGE!
Besides, any girl with me will feel beautiful. At all times. If she doesn't... Then I am not doing my job as a boyfriend. (You'll feel beautiful, even if we are only friends, too.) That's how all men should treat the women, who the respect, in their lives.
Your a girl trust me it would be very hard for you to mess this up and seem creepy. Just saying something about snuggling at some point bam. Guys are pretty hard to creep out so I wouldn't be to worried just take a leap.
Dude, I just had my crush randomly message me saying "Can you please stop flirting with me? It's making me feel uncomfortable"
seems strange most single guys do not mind flirting from women. It is a compliment and everyone loves those. The only exceptions I can think of would be you tried way to hard sending way to many messages way too fast or he is very very set on another girl and trying to stay focused. Maybe he just really is not attracted to you. Im sure there are a few other reasons but for the most part besides coming off stalker-ish if you can flirt like an average person you should be fine. I have let girls Im not attracted to in anyway flirt with me in the past even just because its fun to flirt. Im sorry you had a bad experience though what did you say to him?
I can assure you I said absolutely nothing and he should know by now that I am an outgoing person. It is sad that his heart is set on another girl though if you are right about that :( I could probably run circles, squares and a mother freaking hexagon around her, 100 times over!
I pretty much always wait for them to text first. I feel like that's expected of us for some sucky reason.
Well it is for some guys. I've heard some guys call it desperate, as ridiculous as that is.
Best way to do that is to not think about "keeping him guessing." Just be kind and sweet to him. If he thinks you're attractive, he'll be turned on by that.
Text him while doing personal things like changing clothes taking a shower or getting ready for bed also call him names like baby cutie or sweetie but gradually don't be desaprate and don't text like crazy cause then it will be like nagging him
say something forward. then a winky face. then just kidding. then or am i? ;) But srrsly, jk... ... (0. o)
I agree with that Crossroads guy. I usually mention me taking a shower when I talk to a guy I like ;P
Avoid ;) I get creeped out by that no matter what or who sends me it
Well I guess maybe from a girl it won't be creepy but when I receive them from guys I get majorly creeped out..
Progress into sexual innuendos... Like if talking about hockey, ask if he has a stick that you could play with...
Send him a pic of yourself in a bikini and ask what he thinks of it... Lol
Simply put, when flirty use a lot of overly-friendly expression, smiles and complements.
Why would you want to keep him guessing? So he'll never know and chase someone less flippant?
be subtle and casually slip into a flirty tone
it comes natural for some people
Euphemisms work best. Ask if his kneecaps are hard, and if you two can rub kneecaps later. Works for me every time.
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