Guy Stares Me Down? Confused?

[Jhene04]

Every time I walk by this guy he stares me down until I pass. This has been going on for a year now. At first I was intrigued by it, but now I'm frustrated and confused. I know for fact he is not shy, or a creep. I saw him with a group of guys, he was talking to them but when he saw me he stopped talking and just stared at me, didn't even look away. Now recently again I saw him with a group of girls and he was laughing and smiling but when I past them I got this awkward silence and I overheard him whisper to a lady friend. ''That girl is so quiet''? What does that even mean? He doesn't know me so how can I be quiet. He is the stupid one whom just stares without smiling or saying a word and look like someone cut out his tongue whenever he sees me. All this is so confusing, I even sometimes ignore him. The very first time I ''noticed'' him, he was staring at me and I happen to turn my head and lock eyes for approximately +- 30sec (yes, it was really long and intense). I don't know what to think anymore, why doesn't he approach?

[Applefan1]

It sure sounds like he likes you. Guys tend to stare at women they like. I would not say he is stupid because it can be easy to give a girl a blank stare and not talk, especially if you are a shy guy or have had bad experiences in the dating world in the past. It really is not as easy to approach women as you may think. There are a number of things that go thought men's minds before they approach women and anyone of them can make he not approach.

The things that can make a guy not approach a woman are.

When the woman is really attractive. The problem here is us guys receive lots of bad treatment from really attractive women. I am not saying all attractive women are like this but it can make men think "I really like her but I won't approach because she probably has a poor attitude." An attractive woman can also make a guy think "she is so attractive, there is no way she is single so I will save her and myself the embarrassment and will not approach. Attractive women can also make men think "she is out of my league" and also "there is no way a woman that pretty is interested in me".

Men need women to let them know they are approachable and there are many things women can do to help the situation.

1. Flirt with him
2. Smile at him
3. Make sure you are not wearing ear phones, if a woman is wearing ear phones he feels he will be hassling her if he trys to talk to her so he doesn't
4. Be aware of your facial expressions. It can be easy for anyone to have frowns and scowls on their face at times. However, it can send the wrong message and make you look like you have a bad attitude
5. Don't fold your arms, folding your arms makes you look like a closed person that does not want to talk to anyone
6. Make sure he sees your being nice, kind and friendly to anyone that is around you. Men look at how woman treat others around them and if it is not good they will not approach

Hope this helps a bit. :)

[Jhene04]

The same goes for us woman. I'm scared to approach him too not only because I'm shy. I think at times '' Damn, this guy is way too hot, and out of my league ''Why is he even looking me?'' I mean '' I don't even wear make up, or dress up'' Well recently I started to dress up , change my hairstyle, started to wear dresses (I'm a jeans + t-shirt type of girl) just to see his reaction and to get his attention. He just stared at my face, didn't check out my body that I know of. And all of a sudden he is everywhere where I am. (We work close to each other).

[Applefan1]

Yes well I saying how us guys think but I did not know women felt those feelings to but yeah it is good you are taking care of yourself men like women that take care of themselves but yeah try some of those things that I mentioned above if you feel you can and see if that gets him to make an approach to you.

[Jhene04]

thanks I will

[Applefan1]

No problem.

[Applefan1]

Thank you for MHA

[missjayne]

He was probably caught staring at you and tried to cover for it when he made that remark. This same thing happened to me in the past. He would always stare, never try to talk or approach. Always nervous around me when he did try to talk to me. I still to this day haven't found out what his problem was and we don't even talk anymore. And I also moved a thousand miles away so it really isn't a big deal anymore. But, I did really like him and was disappointed for a very long time afterwards that nothing ever came of it. All I have to say is if you think something is there then try to get to know him, that way you have no regrets.

[Jhene04]

Yeah that is exactly what I'm afraid of..''REGRET''. and I might be moving away soon to a different job in a different area and properly I'll never see him again.

[sammy_31]

He is attracted to you and probably is imagining things about you. Guys did this to me but I would confront them and they would confess. If you feel uncomfortable, I suggest you comfront him or ask a friend to ask for you if you can't.

[Jhene04]

You are so bold to confront.. Lol! I'm a little too shy but thnx

[sammy_31]

It takes some guts but if you can't have friends with you :D

[Anonymous]

Perhaps he likes you but felt he doesn't have a chance. He may resent you if you didn't seem friendly as that can be seen as rejection