Can he be scared to date me because I'm black?

[jeriel1]

Okay I like this guy he shows me the signs that says he likes me back but he has not asked me out. He is always looking me in the eyes and looks like he's about to say something but when I asks him what's on his minds he smiles and say never mind. His friend told me that he said that he thought that I had a boyfriend. But when I brought up the conversation he suddenly changed the subject. Its like we get nervous around each other. He asks me crazy question like what do I look for in a guy or what's my favorite place to eat. My friend asked him have he ever dated a black girl he said no...but he wants to. His family is wealthy and mine aren't. Do you think he could be scared of me or of what his friends and family say? Should I just wait for him to ask. I really really like him. What should I do? Please Help?( Oh yea he's white)

[yannick]

it can be scary because black guys are usually very tall, strong and are known for having... mmh... a big one...

so maybe he's afraid that he cannot be as good as what you are used to or what you could have. sometimes I'm afraid of going towards really beautiful girls because I would feel like I'm not good enough and I'm thinking if the girl cheats on me or dumps me for someone else I will feel like sh!t. I think that may be his problem because he said that he thought you had a boyfriend so it really has to do with him being afraid of not being up to what you are used to and could very easily get.

[LovePHD]

Cut down the Black theory!

Has nothing to do with it, and don't let your friend ever talk to him about any racial Bullsh*t.

It will only stop him from making any move... But on the other hand he transmitted a clear message to you: he wanna date you.

You are an attractive girl and he just doesn't know how to handle the case.

Good luck

[Bichon999]

Just show him it's okay to ask you out. smile and flirt with him.

I know it's hard though. I have the same problem, but am not quite as sure tht he likes me.

(oh and we're not black, so I don't know if tht makes it different. I don't think so...but I'm not sure)

It's hard because he might not like me. If I flirt with him too much, he'll back away. He won't be interested anymore. W/ this guy, 4me he seems more interested when I just act normal.

So that's what you should do! unless he's a different type of guy then mine.

sorry. I confuse everyone. including myself...

[Snootybooty]

don't make him feel uncomfortable around you girl...dont worry about him asking you or what ever..create a gr8 friendship first where he can be himself around you and you and goof off around eachother. once he reaches that comfort lvl things will happen if there meant to be. if he asks you out now and you guys don't even know how to act around each other its going to be akward and you'll break up within no time. that wld suck...and girl never think it's ur color that don't matter your beautiful because of how you present yourself to be

[shygurl0897]

Girl...i say go for it!

The next time you two see each other why not go ahead and ask him out. I liked a white guy(not that color matters--just in the same boat as you) in high school and we were both very shy when it came to talking to each other on that level and I think because of that we never really got the chance to ask each other out or at least try to go out with each other. I regret not doing it til this day but we are still good friends, I just wish we had tried...

[Anonymous]

He asks me crazy question like what do I look for in a guy or what's my favorite place to eat.

lol, that is a VERY normal question to ask.

He is always looking me in the eyes and looks like he's about to say something but when I asks him what's on his minds he smiles and say never mind

duhhh, he likes you and doesn't want to say it out loud.

what you should do?

I think you're more scared of dating him than he is of you. he's white, get over it.

[jeriel1]

I really do appreciate your honesty....you could be a great friend...I hate to say it you are so right!!! I wish I could redo my best answer. I would totally pick You!! BEST ANSWER

[MrTinker]

You might be black, and him white - but love doesn't play be human stupidity, color has no baring, if he loves you, and you love him, love is what gives us strength to fight, in any war, step to any challenge. Love is a huamns greatest treasure and strength, never a weapon nor shield of battle, but a passive feeling that is true and untainted by anything.

[keyler]

Color should not matter, if you like him and he likes you that's all that should matter. I suggest you tell him how you feel and ask him out, who says that it's the guy who has to do the asking, take a risk and ask him out for lunch or movie. Guys love it when a girl knows what she wants and makes the first move. Don't wait any longer, just do it, you possibly could have one of the best relationships of your life.

Good Luck!

[koolgirl345]

I really think your race has nothing to do with it! I think he is just shy & is taking his time.

& he asked you what do I look for in a guy? & what's my favorite place to eat? he is totally interested in you and is just getting to know you more before he asks you out. Girl, relax this guy is totally crushing on ya!

Remember.. good things come to those who waits :)

Good luck!

xo

[Crazycanuck]

According to what you said about his behavior I say that he's not scared but really shy...I suffer from shyness myself and I do everything that he dose when I'm around a girl that I like. Maybe you should be the one to ask him out. Give it a try and good luck.

[JennyMay]

i would just wait and see how thing work out. You can tell him how you fell but he prob already know weather he like you or not but us just scared to approach you. So just give it a wile and see what happens, if not you can take it into your own hands and see what happens

[nbc5023]

There is some fear among white men today that black women should be avoided, it has to do with history and all, and we are kind of afraid that blacks don't like it when black females date white males, like it would be selling out or something. What I would recommend you do is introduce him to your parents, so that he can feel sure that they will approve of him since he will get to know them.

[jbone79]

Speak for yourself. I date who I want and I don't give a damn who likes it or not. If anyone has a problem then it's their problem not mine. - j

[Anonymous]

that could be a possibility. I saw on CNN today this white guy was dating a black girl and he got jumped by 10 black guys.

just wait for him to ask but still make it obvious you're feeling him. if he lets that fear get in the way of starting something then he's not worth it anyway but you never know until you try. maybe he needs more time

[jbone79]

Just goes to show you. It takes 10 cowards of any color to jump 1 real man.

[JustDance]

Only in the United States folks. :D

[4everbebe]

just ask him out [: I'm black and I dated a white boy. I asked him out lmao and we had a cool relationship, but sadly it didin't work out (personal reasons) so yeah, ask him out [: and good luck wish the best for ya girl

[mrdeat]

from my perspective(white guy)i would say yes cause ur black and he is white but I bet dating a pretty black girl would be v nice I'm guessing he likes your personality otherwise he would keep his conversation/eye contact to simple contact...?

[angelahayes87]

Well hun! You gotta make the first move than cause before you know it he will be taken. Take my word for it I have dated guys in the past that shy away from asking us females out because of self confidence or fear of rejection. That's when you got to make a move and ask him some questions and show him that you are interested. Girl I did. But it didn't work out because I had to move out to the east coast and the long distance was not gonna cut it.

[Ceesa]

You should wait for him to ask, Yes!