Girl sits next to me in class, I like her but can't find it in me to say something

[Kenival]

Well, ever since college started I have a class that's only 2 days a week. Every time I'm in class there this really cute girl sitting, usually, a seat away from me. I don't know how to start talking to her. I can't start a conversation in the middle of class because our professor is extremely strict and if you do something he doesn't like, he will put you on the spot in front of the whole class, I don't want that happening.. I don't want to embarrass her or myself.

I came to class early today to see if maybe I'd find the balls to start talking her but I did not. I was going to sit in the seat right next to her but I didn't want to creep her out so I sat a seat over, like we usually do. We had about 10 minutes of free time and I just couldn't say anything to her.. don't know why, I'm not that shy of a guy. So I completely failed..

But last Tuesday she was a bit late to class and she sat in the seat right next to me even though there was room on either side.. maybe it was just the seat she always sits in, or maybe she wants me to talk to her.

I very much would like to start talking to her.. maybe offer her a ride home or something but I cannot for some reason.

Guys, please help =[

[smallz660]

I'm in pretty much the same situation as you. You would think that being in the same class as someone would put you in situations to talk to them more often, but I find it much harder to talk to girls in class than in any other situation. Your best bet is to talk about an assignment you have or something you didn't understand in class (even if you did really understand it). The good thing is that your gonna be in class with her for a while so you have plenty of opportunities to talk to her.

[wanacot]

Find a starting point for the conversation. Something about the class or an assignment is usually a good bet. If you can, be funny. Try googling "cocky funny" and reading about that technique and some of the pointers for conversation starting.

[icecreamlover]

Good answer!

[Kenival]

The thing is, I can't really get a chance to talk to her.. only got that chance today and blew it. But all other times, there's no way for me to talk to her because the whole class, the professor reads us a lecture and then when he takes attendance, my name always comes up before hers, I tried packing reaaally slowly one time but her name is like one of the last ones to be called I guess.. I don't even know her name =/ and I think if I were to wait for her outside of class it'd be kinda creepy

[wanacot]

Well if you need an excuse to wait for her, stay in your seat and keep working. Heck, you can even pretend to keep working. If you use paper/pen for notes then rewrite some of the notes or write whatever you want. Easy to make it look like you're doing something. If you use a laptop then just keep typing about something. Very easy to stall until her name is called/she is leaving.

[Kenival]

Lol that's a great idea. I'm also debating on whether I should offer her a ride home or something.. she might have a car of her own. Or even a boyfriend =[

[wanacot]

If this is the first time you've talked to her, don't offer her a ride home. That's a little too creepy for a first encounter. After the initial talk make sure you always say "hi" to her when you see her and build the conversation up a little more each time.

[anabur]

Start making yourself talk to as many girls as you can, not even flirting but just being social. Girls who are ugly or plain or just a little cute to you. It'll make you more confident and relaxed, so you'll end up talking to this girl without having to force yourself.

[icecreamlover]

Dont be a d*** and use other girls, playing with their hearts and sh*t that's fcuked up

[Kenival]

I don't have problems with talking to girls, I'm not shy and I'm pretty social. I just have yet to find the perfect opportunity to start a convo with her.. but then when I did get a chance today I didn't take it for some reason. Never really happened before.. I'm pretty confused about it. Don't know what to do.

[anabur]

It's not "playing with peoples' hearts" to do what I said to do...talk to them, not even flirting but just being social. So I'm not sure why that's being a d***. Maybe someone is projecting their issues a little?? ahem